Love is bs... true or false?

[Anonymous]

I'm sick and tired of trying. I'm done.

True

False

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6 mo

I'm sorry but it just doesn't exist for me. If it did then I would have him back. Fate/God took him away from me. So I don't care what you guys say, love is bullshit. It doesn't exist for many people. And I am one of them. If it exists for you then that's great. But the reality is many will never find their person and if they do, it will be taken away from them through some unfortunate event.

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6 mo

I've decided I won't give up. I don't think God would bring us together just for it to end so abruptly. Maybe I'm a fool but I won't give up on him. I can't. I may die trying but I know he's meant to be my person.

[TallLoney]

I wish it wasn’t bs, but I've been shown so many times that it is. I would love more than anything to experience it, but I dont think its real anymore.

[dean55au]

True...
I was over it years ago

[AI Opinion]

Ah, the whirlwind of emotions! Let's talk love – it's messy, chaotic, and sometimes feels like life's biggest prank. But hey, behind every love story is a lesson, a chance to grow. Don’t let past experiences throw you off, love can still be magical. Just take a deep breath, focus on self-love, and remember, the right person might just be around the corner. Keep that heart open! 💖

[ohsheeT]

Stop picking the wrong guys it's not there fault. Look you are the boss

First, you need to find yourself. And you need to love yourself and you need to set up boundaries if you allow one boundary to be will always be crossed

Sto.\nP dealing with guys , the treat you the way that they treat you stop getting with guys that take advantage of you.\nYou have to know who you truly are. Before you can get anybody else to know who you truly are

Love, real love, true love is the most beautiful thing in this world. And this is what we are all here to learn\nIf you do not love yourself the way you're supposed to , then you're always going to attract guys that love you the same way

And you're not built to say you give up , especially , I love because you crave it

You would crave it every single day if you were to try to even give up, you know, it's not possible for anybody we all say whatever we want. We think we are defeated, but you're not defeated. You just haven't found yourself yet.

Well.\nI take that back. I'm sure parts of you , you know exactly who you are , but when it comes down to love , you don't , that's the reason why you're going through what you're going through , it's easy to figure it out , but it takes time to become it and live it

First things first dont blame anyone except yourself when you are in control of yourself, you won't allow anybody else to manipulate you. To use you in real life. It's a different story in sexual games. But we are not talking about that but I just had to clarify that take a break and understand your self better. And you also know the moment you start dating somebody , if it's going to work or not right at the very beginning , you will always question yourself

So you need to be honest with yourself , so you're honest with other people don't just jump into a relationship because you're lonely , I mean , it's nice once in a while , but it's not real

And you already know this as a matter of fact , you already know everything I just said to you just don't follow through with who you truly are or who you would like to be , but you don't allowyourself because you don't want to lose that person , right

[Asker]

There's only one guy that is right for me and I can't move mountains to make it happen. So love for me doesn't exist anymore. He took it away from me. My belief in it is gone. I don't know why God would give me someone so wonderful just to take it away from me. It hurts and it's not fair. Why does everyone else get their happily ever after but I can't?

[DextroShade]

You are going to need to provide more context: if this guy is right for you, then why aren't you together?

[Asker]

Because he let go prematurely. I wasn't in the best place mentally and it took a toll on him but he's starting to see it was a mistake or at least I hope.

[DextroShade]

Men rarely leave relationships, so for him to leave you must have been really bad. Is he still smashing?

[Asker]

Yes. That's not why he left. It wasn't about the sex. It was about the depression.

[ohsheeT]

And if he doesn't see it that way. Then what

[Asker]

I think I'm starting to get through to him. I just need more time.

[ohsheeT]

Well just make sure his head and your head is in the right place. You don't want to go through what you just went through. If he's not sure because you don't need another broken heart.

You also have to understand that when things like this happen, they haven't for a reason either. There's somebody that is perfect for you out even though you think it's him, but you can't live a good life. I mean, and be happy all the time. Then he's not the right guy for you.\ and vice versa

[Asker]

But I believe and know in my heart of hearts he is. Ever since we first met in the rain at the university I knew he would be someone special in my life. I just didn't know how special he would become.

[ohsheeT]

Now you need to hope he feels the same way have you ever told him

And what do you think he is depressed about

[Asker]

Just different things going on in his life. And I have told him but he says we need to grow before we head back down into a relationship again which I understand and agree. But I just don't know how much time he feels we need to grow before we enter into a relationship again.

[ohsheeT]

Yes and really, that doesn't make any sense, because the only way to grow is to get back into the relationship. And as happening become more connected and communicate more in those moments, because you can't grow any other way.

So you guys are in school. Do you live in the same city as your college? Or are you both from different places

[Asker]

No we have long since graduated. We both graduated I'm 2014. And we don't live in the same city. But we have to continue to grow by ourselves before we can come back together and grow even more together. We have a lot of work mentally before we get to the point of being in a relationship again. Hope that makes sense.

[ohsheeT]

Yes, for sure. It makes a lot of sense. I thought you were still in school together or something. And you still lived close to each other you're dating each other. Yeah, this makes a lot more sense to a point.\n Because being long distance Just makes everything that much more difficult.\n But I understand the growing part and you have to find yourself. It's better if you can do it both at the same time with each other. But at\n The same time, new experiences in growth is Very important , beautiful thing too , that you both have to experience

[Asker]

Right indeed it is. Thanks for understanding.

[ohsheeT]

I just want more question.\n So you broke up in 2014 or is that when you both went several ways?\n Because I just read everything that you have said and the things that you say in between The lines I feel bad. I feel really bad for you. Because you seem like you're a very good person. And you know what you want, but if it's been 10 years and I think you are telling your future with everything that you have written\nI hope i'm wrong but umm

[Asker]

We broke up in 2024. We were long distance. We got together in 2023. So we were together a little over a year when he broke up with me.

[ohsheeT]

And it was long distance relationship kinda

[Asker]

Yep.

[ohsheeT]

Ok well I really want to tell what I see and feel at the same time i dont because i don't want to be the bad guy. And if you just re-read everything, I mean, the answer is right there and I feel terrible because I know this is something that you do not want to hear. And the thing is, I honestly believe it's gonna be his loss, because the person that I've been talking to. Is it good a sweet person in so many different ways? It's actually unbelievable. Have you talked to him about you moving there? Maybe that's what it's about is because of long distance

[Asker]

No the distance didn't hurt our relationship, my depression did

[ohsheeT]

When the guy truly truly wants to be with you, he's gonna be with you. He's not gonna say well, . Lets back off , and we need to grow because it doesn't work that way, the only way you're gonna go together is to be together. That's the only way I think he's trying to protect you probably, and he doesn't want to break your heart, and it really sucks, because you're actually a really good person, I think Is the vibe that I get? I mean in so many different ways, you're actually a good good person I mean, and I feel like a real p****, because I'm even saying what I'm saying and who am I, but I know who I am at LOL and I read people everything so well, that's that's what I do, and I don't know I feel so
bad right now and I mean, it's understandable that you won't even believe me, and that's, I'm glad it's that way I just feel that you've been hurt enough. I mean , okay , never mind , i'm gonna stop

[ohsheeT]

Your depression

[ohsheeT]

Wow at first that's what I felt but then I thought you said it was his and you have done a lot of work. I would have to say , because I did not feel that coming from you at all

[Asker]

I'll dm you

[ohsheeT]

Well.\n I mean, honestly, 100%. I feel that he's making a big mistake. Because there is something about you that is unique. It's\n Beautiful, in your own way, it's your strength. You have a strength And\n There's something else, but I just can't grasp it yet.\n I don't know that just kind of blows me away.\n What were you depressed about?\n I mean, I kind of know maybe, but It's good to say things out loud. Sometimes I'm such an a****** I swear to God, I don't mean to be putting you through this either. But from the very beginning Since I answered this question , I mean , I have felt you i have felt what's going to happen can you almost tell you your future? But you don't want to hear any of this , I bet and I know you don't , and I apologize , I really do apologize

[HawkPerception]

I'm genuinely sick of people who say this negative nonsense. If love is BS to you, then don't date. Be a miserable misandrist cat lady for life. End of story.

You think because it didn't work out with one or even a few guys, that all guys suck? You wanna know the truth? The issue is either your choice of men, your own character, or both the guys you choose and your character.

So what if it doesn't work out with one guy? Learn from your mistakes, change how you filter men, and move on. Don't judge every guy for the mistakes of past men in your life. We're all different people. Just like there are shitty women and good women.

Either that or keep feeling sorry for yourself.

[Asker]

I don't feel sorry for myself. I've decided I won't give up. I don't think God or fate or whatever would bring us together just for it to end so abruptly. Maybe I'm a fool but I won't give up on him. I can't. I may die trying but I know he's meant to be my person. I have to keep trying. I've started to break through and I think if I keep breaking through it will happen again. He will be with me again. I just have to keep trying.

[HawkPerception]

That is illogical thinking and not respecting his boundaries. If he doesn't want you, accept that and move on. There's plenty of fish in the sea. Why are you so focused on this one guy when you've seen so little of the world?

[Asker]

Because he's my person. And I'm his.

[HawkPerception]

Does he want you or not?

[Asker]

Yes I believe he does deep down, he's just going through a lot right now. I'm trying to reach him but he's emotionally unavailable right now due to several things that's happened to him.

[HawkPerception]

Ya know what? I actually respect the dedication to him and hope that he actually does have those feelings for you deep down. Hard to find loyal women like you. I hope it works out between you guys genuinely. But I still recommend that if it doesn't work out between you guys, you don't wait your whole life for him

[Asker]

Thank you. I won't wait my whole life but for now, I want to try to see this through. We talk everyday and he always tells me about the things going wrong in his life and I know right now he's not able to step into a relationship again because of that and I respect that, but I know deep down he still loves me and would want to try again if it wasn't for what he is going through right now.

[Summeroflove]

False. The issue is that many people are too carried away in fantasies, that if you’re not careful predatory people will put on a good act and pretend to be really anything they think you want them to be.

People fall in love too fast with a image sometimes not even with a nefarious person but a good person. Then become resentful later down the road when he/she isn’t all they thought they would be. Men and women are both guilty…. Of making someone into a god. That they’re perfect. But as soon as they see they aren’t well that’s when resentment sets in.

Many people are also very superficial and materialistic…. Yes, even men. But most people who are aren’t honest about it. If someone’s honest I respect it. At least they won’t waste my time. But most aren’t…. And will fake it until they make it. Why? Because most people don’t want that. And they know they will get rejected by the kind of people they want.

[Asker]

You're right about that but the love I felt with him was real and not a fantasy. I realize that it's going to take a lot of time but I won't give up on us. I refuse to.

[Finchie40]

False, you just aren’t finding the right guy , but once you do , you won’t call it bullshit , most of us experience bad seeds until we find a good seed to grow with

[Asker]

I did find the right guy. I've decided I won't give up. I don't think God or fate or whatever would bring us together just for it to end so abruptly. Maybe I'm a fool but I won't give up on him. I can't. I may die trying but I know he's meant to be my person. I have to keep trying. I've started to break through and I think if I keep breaking through it will happen again. He will be with me again. I just have to keep trying.

[DishLady]

We all say that at some point in time. I’ve been feeling it lately too, but take a short break, get some solid spa time in, and get back on that horse. You’ll be fine.

[Sangita93]

Whether love is bullshit or blessing is a subjective, philosophical debate. Most people link love and sex with one another as if it is the same thing, and this is the reason of confusion. In our culture and religion, Hinduism, we see love as divine and essential, love is powerful, real connection - spiritual and physical / biological both. Love is profound blessing, bringing joy, connection, purpose, and well-being, described as nourishment for the soul and a divine gift. Experiencing deep love can also bring vulnerability and potential heartache. It is seen as a source of fulfilment, strengthening human bonds and providing support, but its power to bring both immense happiness and deep pain means it can also feel like a double-edged sword. Strong emotional bonds, chemical reactions like oxytocin, and intense feelings of connection are real experiences is described as "insanely in love". Mostly in western culture most people believe love is just an exchange of benefits, money, security, sex, companionship rather than pure emotion. They only focus on successful "love at first sight" stories, ignoring the many that fail, making it seem more magical than it is. For them disappointment, negative experiences, trauma, or realizing idealised romantic notions do not match reality and can lead to cynicism. Love Is a complex human experience that varies greatly. Ultimately, your perception of love depends on your personal understanding and experiences.

[teehartman55]

Love, real love, is the greatest thing we humans can ever experience. doen't mean rough partches aren't coming but if you truly love someone for whi they are, not what you think they may become, you won't go wrong. Someone said, it comes when your not looking. so don't look! Or then again, perhaps your not already!

[Asker]

I found my person. I just have to wait on them to see that I'm their person.

[midnightmoon05]

Your current stage yes. You can stay where you are or learn then move on. Better day tomorrow.

i too had those feelings… for 1,2,3? years? Time… and with an open mind… it heals…

when lease expected… I found him here on gag or he found me… or gag put is together…

happily married now.

hugs to u.

[DextroShade]

Yet another case of a woman who overestimated her sexual marketplace value, rejected the guys she actually qualified for a relationship with in favor of getting ran-through by Chad and Tyrone, and is now in her 30's having lost the ability to pair-bond. Of course you don't think love exists, you threw away your capacity to experience it!

[Asker]

You have no idea what you're talking about or who I am or what I went through. So fuck off.

[DextroShade]

I know you went through a lot of dicks. You are only mad because I am right about you.

[Asker]

I was sexually assaulted in college which kept me from being with a lot of men after that. So you're dead wrong. I've only been with 4 guys. That's not a lot. And it took years to get with the other 3 after what happened to me. Not that it's any of your business but just saying this to say stop judging what you have no idea what someone has gone through.

[7Phoenix7]

False… without love this world would be 100 percent dead.

[Asker]

You're right. I just let my pessimistic view on things get the better of me but I won't anymore. I'm tired of being pessimistic. I feel he will love me again. I just have to keep hoping and praying that he will take me back. I think I'm starting to break through but I have to keep trying.

[Purpleronnie]

Clearly you have decided , so your truth. My present understanding isn’t based on hurt so naturally I will disagree.


Don’t see any point in trying to convince you otherwise but still hope you find happiness.


Good luck !

[Asker]

I'll find happiness when I'm dead.

[Nikki1989]

It can't be BS when millions of people are in love right at this very moment. People are quick to put it down when it is not working for them.

[Asker]

You're right and I refuse to give up on it now. I see that I can reach him I just have to keep trying or die trying. I won't give up on him. I can't.

[FreyaRed]

Love exists. However there is too much mysticism and wish think about neuro-chemical imbalance and psychological addiction love causes.

[exitseven]

It is the real deal.

https://www.youtube.com/embed/vTpat76RbV8

[Asker]

You're right it is the real deal. I found it and I know he's the one. I just have to make him believe it again and I will or die trying.

[exitseven]

don;t die.

[Asker]

I won't but if I die before we're reunited then so be it.

[RxR0954]

As much as i feel your pain, i’d say love is not bs and it still exist. Took me nearly 6 years to get over my first girlfriend, but time heals

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Romantic love is overrated on a societal level. Look up “amatonormativity” and see what you feel after that

[UniquelyBasic]

Life without love is such a sad way to live. Anybody who thinks love is overrated is just a sad person tbh.

[JohnKebab]

You're right when you say love doesn't exist, because it doesn't. There's no such thing as love in this world. I once was in a relationship with a woman and thought she was perfect for me, until she betrayed me for God. So yeah love is bs.

[Asker]

Right it is and I'm sorry.

[Anonymous]

It's more and more looking like that love is dwindling away. However if you see that couple's are finding each other more and more 55 and up. AARP stages.

[Opinion Owner]

also I wanted to say that it's super hard to have someone like you let alone love you.,,, and yes you are valid to think it is BS.

[lilBigPotato]

It's not but it surely can be a bitch at times.

[MisterPandemonium]

Ouch.

Sorry things are going so badly for you.

Hope your love life improves soon.

[LiamJHayden]

No, but most people poorly define love as a feeling, rather than as the choice to seek the better for another.

[AngryCarl2]

That depends. Are we talking about the love of a woman for a man, or the love of a man for a good bourbon?

[Jersey2]

False. Many would die for those they live. Especially moms for their children.

[msc545]

What you think is love is just the rumblings of your own neurochemistry. Get some help.

[Asker]

I have gotten help. And I know who I'm supposed to be with. I don't believe love is bullshit anymore. It can't be. The love that we felt for each other was real and I won't give up on that. I refuse to.

[msc545]

Just be careful because you're likely to get your heart broken.

[Kingofkings1992]

Opinions cannot be true or false, only facts and fallacies are.

[Asker]

You're right. And now I know that love is real. I have to keep trying and see it through with him.

[Anonymous]

It can be if you don't have any luck in love (just like me).

[gamerboy2002]

i have never fallen in love and am virgin boy 2002

[queenofcardio]

It can definitely feel like that sometimes

[Alex-Snow]

I hope it is a real thing

[Daytoday79]

True, when it's real.

[Anonymous]

False.

[dudeinohio]

Never give up

[Asker]

Thanks I won't

[dudeinohio]

Good.

[Zionne]

no, it's not

[Fairy24]

True