My boyfriend doesn’t want to give his phone to me is he sneaky?

[Naomi999]

[Chazmatazz269]

Too little information. There’s nothing wrong with wanting to retain his privacy. You’re not entitled to anything. If you’re insisting, then you’re in the wrong.
If you have reason to believe he’s hiding something, then just break up with him. The trust is already gone. Even if he let you go through his phone only to find bupkis, you would just assume that he’s hiding whatever somewhere else.
There is no relationship without trust. Break it off.

[FunkyMonkee]

Why would you NEED to look at his phone? Are you always that snoopy and nosey? Some people deserve a bit of privacy! Also, maybe he doesn't want you screwing with some of the settings and messing things up.
This would prove to me that you don't trust me (him)! How can you hope to build a relationship if you don't have trust? Just leave it alone! If he wants to show you shit on it, he will. Maybe there's something on it that he feels you might think is weird or freaky and it'll chase you away and he's scared to lose you. In time, when he gets to know you better, he'll come out with it.
Snooping into someone's phone or computer is like snooping into someone's brain! Or their diary! There's a lot of personal/private stuff in there that they don't want anyone to see until they're ready to LET YOU see it. Would YOU like it if he went routing though YOUR head or diary?

[Nikki1989]

He is hiding something.

When men emphasise the importance of "respecting their privacy," it should raise suspicions.

My husband and I share each other's phones all the time.

[DishLady]

WHY is your generation SO OBSESSED with invading each other’s privacy?

IF YOU DO NOT TRUST THE GUY THEN DON’T BE WITH HIM.

[HawkPerception]

When your partner is shady with their phone, it's more than likely that they have something to hide, which is definitely a red flag. On the other hand, no one is obligated to give their partner their account login information, whether that's social media accounts or anything else, unless they're joint accounts.

[MikeMcMansion]

Bro she’s 13, they shouldn’t even be pretending to date, absolutely abhorrent. Parent (s) suck today, no dad in the picture probably, very sad. I’m going to assume you didn’t see the age, I didn’t think they allowed under 16 to even be on here

[HawkPerception]

@MikeMcMansion Oh I saw the age clearly. She is likely going through puberty (when your body literally starts making you think of the opposite sex). And while it is not okay for an adult to date a minor, there is a close-in-age-exception, where the kid can date within 2-3 years older than themselves.

As for if I was a parent, if I had a daughter, I'd allow her to date, but prohibit sex until she's at least 16 and tell her if she goes against that, she's out of the house asap. And I'd educate her on the importance of using protection and tell her in the case she does have sex, she absolutely has to use it while she's living with me.

I agree that missing father figures are a big part of why sexual promiscuity is so rampant nowadays, and I have no plans to raise my kids like that, but it's fine to learn the ropes in dating at age 13. I'm not going to be overprotective of my kids. They need to experience things in life, and that includes relationships and how they work.

[MikeMcMansion]

Sex before marriage is cringe, and any sex before 18 is technically illegal in most states. Women are especially susceptible to being misled by the most popular few guys in school are they not? Even into adulthood women seem to never grow put of chad chasing (Being raised into a good family by a good father role model though can help abate that urge) , I’ve seem you make good points on here but before their brains are fully developed, and they haven’t learned the rough lessons in life I believe anything before 18 especially these days should be illegal, and in fact, parents should be charged if their kids engage in such actions with each other.

We need to fix the gender wars and confusion out there. Holding parents accountable for certain things I believe is all right.

[HawkPerception]

@MikeMcMansion Firstly, I appreciate the compliment about the points I've made on GaG.

Marriage is a human-made concept. Our biological desires (which align with nature's intention) should logically come first. The legal age of consent is only a modern thing, and it has been pushed back in recent years many times. Japan's legal age of consent was 13 up until just 3 years ago in 2023. There are many countries with legal age of consent being lower than 18.

Here are a list of countries that have a legal age of consent of 14 years old:
Austria
​Bulgaria
​Estonia
​Germany
​Hungary
​Italy
​Liechtenstein (14, with some conditions for 12–13‑year‑olds)
​Portugal
​Serbia

And here are a list of countries that have a legal age of consent of 15 years old:
Croatia
​Czech Republic
​Denmark
​Greece
​Poland
​Romania
​Slovakia
​Slovenia
​Sweden

And here are some with a legal age of consent of 16 years old:
Belgium
​Finland
​Great Britain (England, Wales, Scotland)
​Latvia
​Lithuania
​Luxembourg
​Netherlands
​Spain

My suggestion to you is to think logically from an objective standpoint and not just believe whatever you were taught. There are different cultures and perspectives in the world. If it was a sin to have sex before marriage, then you're condemning the majority of the world (70-90% of the global population). It doesn't make you morally superior to others because you want to wait until marriage to have it. All it says is your perspective is different.

Now, as I mentioned, there is a problem with promiscuity being so rampant nowadays, and that is largely due to missing father figures, as well as other factors like social media and OnlyFans. And then there's stuff like feminism, which was good in the beginning, but women nowadays still want their cake and to eat it too. They have equal pay, but still expect men to foot the bill in most dating scenarios and think of dating as a free ride.

[HawkPerception]

And to add to the countries with an age of consent of 14 years old, there's also:
Bolivia
Brazil
Chile
Colombia
Ecuador
Paraguay (14 for heterosexual, 16 for homosexual)
Peru

[MikeMcMansion]

1. Fathers or men were in charge of households and arranged marriages were practiced by not only the elite like they still are today, but by the commoner.

2. The fatherless was epidemic today compounded with social media and feminism as well as children not fully mentally and emotionally developing until they are around 18 to 22 is a thing we should recognize.

3. There are a lot of predators out there feeding off of this confusion and societal weakness. Contrary to popular belief, rapists were dealt with in the most extreme ways back then. If the daughter consented he was forced to marry and care for her if the father was ok with that, or the father got to enslave or beat the guy to s pulp.

Comparing today with yesterday is a fool’s errand

[MikeMcMansion]

Almost all cultures were patriarchal. Men wanted to raise their own sons not another man’s. This is universal.

[HawkPerception]

I disagree with the past being irrelevant. Regardless, I gave you many examples of countries with legal ages of consent that are lower than 18 years old TODAY.

[MikeMcMansion]

We shouldn’t encourage debauchery and shame it. 13 year old children deserve protection and pity in this situation. Innocence should be preserved and predation should be dealt with by a man with an ax

[MikeMcMansion]

We can learn from the past, but the morals of the time fit with the environment of their times as well. Its hard fir us to put ourselves in their shoes

[HawkPerception]

That remains the same today. Most men would rather raise their own son than another man's. That applies to myself as well.

Children do deserve protection and innocence should be preserved when it's desired. But when they want to cross that line, and feel comfortable to do so, I think it's best to simply teach them to be safe when doing it. I will raise my kids (if I'm lucky enough to have any in the future) that way.

[AviatorTom]

Do you give your phone to him and let him see everything you have on it?

Please Google the word privacy and try to understand what it means.

[Anonymous]

Just because he's being private with his phone it doesn't mean he's doing anything shifty, I mean how do you know he's not buying you something or booking a restaurant or something that's a surprise, I think if you can't trust him then what's the point.

But you could have a fun game out of it, say you and him once a week or month when you choose a surprise moment to switch phones for 5 minutes to see what the other person's up too on their phone and they have to stop there and then whatever thry are doing either in a middle of a game or text and switch phone right away. So the girl might do it one day and the guy may do it an hour or day or 3 after.

[888theGreat]

That is his privacy. if you always think he is talking to other Girls it is because you are always asking for his Phone. You have to learn boundaries and grow up. If you were my little girl you wouldn't have a boyfriend. You prove here you are not mature enough.

[Vegasrunner]

Why would he give you his phone? You dont have your own?

[Naomi999]

No he be like
Hiding

[spartan55]

You don't know that 'he be' hiding anything. It's what YOU believe.

[Vegasrunner]

@naomi999 He shouldn't hide it he should just tell you no you can't see it.

[Quigly]

You are too young for a boyfriend. Go tell his mommy he is being mean to you.

[Naomi999]

Never too young and never too old

[Quigly]

That how you go to prison.

[jshm2]

No. I won't just give my personal phone to anyone either.

There is stuff on there that is not for other eyes.

But you should maybe ask his friends, rather than committing a felony by going through others stuff.

[HighValue]

For long term successful relationships, neither person should have a smart phone at all, BUT most people value their phones more than anything else in life because they are stupid.

[lilBigPotato]

Maybe, maybe not. Sounds suspicious but also depends on how you asked and what your reason is.

[dislikesmath]

Maybe I don't want to be a snitch but sounds like it, I was going to write something else I'm Mexican I forgot the words

[sawno]

Possibly. I do mind giving passwords since I value my security. But if my girl wanted to look she can tell me what she wants me to open.

[Miristheiss]

Yes.

Huge red flag.

Committed couples keeping secrets from each other means you two shouldn't even be together.

[LiamS95]

Sounds like he has another girl on the hook. You don't need a cheater especially at your age.

[David318578]

Im assuming he is also 13? He is probably embarrassed about his search history rather then him "cheating"

[WonderingManII]

Yikes, I don't think I would want to give a girl my phone either. If we were married, that might be a different story.

[msc545]

No it's his phone not yours. I don't understand why women think they have the right to look at men's phones but they don't. If you don't trust him, then find a new boyfriend.

[exitseven]

Do your parents know that you are on this site?

[MrChinaski]

Chill. 99% likely it just means you aren't phone-sharing close yet.

[dudeinohio]

Maybe or maybe not. Some people just consider that something personal and private. My wife and I know each other's codes and sometimes share phones.

[Staximus]

Pretty sneaky

https://www.youtube.com/embed/nRRYrXj3wNE

[genericname85]

He's probably aware of a concept called "privacy".

[Kingofkings1992]

Why is he required to give you his phone? Unless he is obviously communicating on it while you're with him, then just chill. You're creating drama

[LiamJHayden]

Maybe, but since you already suspect him just break up.

[AngryCarl2]

No, he just doesn't want you checking up on him. I wouldn't either.

[fish5505_87]

No, my wife is always looking at my phone, it's downright annoying, god forbid I look at hers!

[Twalli]

I doubt it, and at 13 it really shouldn't matter unless you already don't trust him.

[Aiko_E_Lara]

Because it's his phone and that's his rights. You also have yours.

[Anonymous]

Why do you want to take his phone? Are you sneaky?

[slatyb]

No, and your request is out of bounds.

[ChicoFromThe305]

Probably not a good thing.

[DextroShade]

Do you give him your phone?

[_Troian_]

You are 13 .. and u having boyfriend?

[ItsAshh2009]

It seems like he is

[Anonymous]

No, he just likes his privacy.

[Raydergman26]

Hi is probably cheating

[bowenw]

Most likely.

[Anonymous]

Yes, dump him.

[In_Trance]

No he isn't

[zombiewoof]

Maybe