I slept with my groupmate at university and worried that he will tell everyone, how to calm down?

[Anonymous]

I slept with my groupmate at university, he’s 35 and older than me. I asked him to do STDs test, but he said “we’re just friends, if you care that much do it by yourself”. I blocked him after. Now I’m worried cause I also told him to not tell anybody about that, but how I noticed now he doesn’t like when you ask him something to do. What if he will tell everyone because he’s mad at me and will destroy my reputation?
And we have same classes once a week, and I have to see him every week and be worried about our situation.
And also the way he reacted about STDs test also so suspicious, and I have to do it by myself. But I’m international student and don’t have much scholarship and support and I’m really scared.

[Fruitpunch1789]

If you're that worried about STDs, get a test done by yourself. Asking a girl I slept with VOLUNTARILY does NOT obligate her to get an STD test done, unless you have seen signs of an STD infection?

Blocking him because he refused well, I can tell you're still young and immature. In addition to worrying about your reputation, I wouldn't care too much about it because you're not going to be in college forever and if you're that worried, find men outside of school to date.

Choices and consequences my dear.

[sawno]

Its university, people have sex. If he goes telling everyone just don't let it get to you, if you don't make a big deal out of it its not a big deal.

[Abbycado]

@HollyK21 do you understand this line?

I asked him to do STDs test, but he said “we’re just friends, if you care that much do it by yourself”

[HollyK21]

Makes zero sense lol what’s being friends got to do with anything an STD is an STD lol

[Abbycado]

Dirty anons lol

[Asker]

I asked to him to make tests, but instead he wanted to devalue our sex and said that “we’re just friends” and wanted to say he doesn’t have to do anything for me

[AI Opinion]

Being in such a sticky situation is no fun, right? My aim is to help you navigate such issues without stress. His reaction to the STD test request is concerning. Get tested for your peace of mind—it’s worth the expense. As for the secret, many times, people don't gossip as much as we fear. Approach him with calmness and confidence in class, showing it’s all cool. 🕶️ Make it clear that spilling the beans isn’t a good look for anyone. You got this! 💪

[DryGermanGuy]

Sleep with all the other group mates to even it out. 😬

[jahaims]

Don't act like a slut if you don't want to be seen as one. Actions obviously have consequences. You making mistakes isn't his responsibility.

[Asker]

When it makes me slut and no consequences for men. Why only me the one who should control myself and not him, and why people always judge only women

[MasterKS]

sounds like a hot fuck.