I see literally no benefit to being in a relationship?

[Anonymous]

I would never trade my privacy and free time. I had friends, even good ones, but I see them maybe once a month, not all the time like people do with a partner. Even when I think about living with someone, I start to feel suffocated.

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3 mo

Think about it, people feel protective/possessive about their possessions, but they will gladly share them and their time with "spouses" or "partners". Thats weird

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3 mo

I never understood why people cry and whine over relationships, especially when they’re rich or famous. Why deliberately invite drama?

[lightbulb27]

There's lots of benefits to relationship.

Someone once joked with me..."it appears there is a problem somewhere between the desk and the chair". In your case, you have a problem in your mind. You get to find the problem and come up with a solution. That is the joy of being an adult.

Most people though, they just ignore their problems and avoid changing. The ones that can face the change, they make progress... and get to a new destination.

[MontBlanc]

That’s a completely valid perspective.

Relationships come with trade offs , shared time, compromise, and less privacy. Not everyone finds that appealing or necessary for happiness.

Being single can mean freedom, space, and the ability to focus on yourself, your passions, and your personal growth. For some, those benefits outweigh what a relationship offers.

It’s all about knowing what aligns with your life and comfort, and being honest with yourself about it.

[Asker]

but i find it shocking the amount of people who do find it appealing. and i believe its not natural actually, its just social heritage

[MontBlanc]

That’s an interesting perspective.

I think social influence definitely shapes how many people view relationships, but there’s also something inherently human about seeking connection, companionship, and intimacy.

The balance between personal freedom and shared life is unique for each person, which is why both paths relationship or singlehood can feel appealing depending on individual priorities.

[Nikki1989]

OK, good to know. More room for us.

[Master_Debator]

You sound normal to me. True, some people can't or just don't know how to entertain themselves or they can't stand being alone with themself... you're not one of those people. I'm the same. I totally get it. For some of us, constant social interaction isn't the penicle of fun.

[Asker]

i like people but not 24-7 like what people have with their spouses. i go to club maybe 1 time per 2 months

[Asker]

If I will start sharing my lifestyle with somebody else, naturally, by definition my life will stop being fully mine

[AI Opinion]

My aim on GAG is to decode all this messy love stuff and make it make sense for you, without the fake lovebombing. 😉

Honestly, that’s totally valid. Not wanting a relationship is not a red flag, it’s self-awareness. Some people are wired for deep daily connection, others for space, freedom, and privacy. You don’t need to “fix” this or force yourself to want more. If you feel suffocated imagining cohabiting, your nervous system is telling you what fits you right now. Stay single, enjoy your autonomy, and if one day someone feels like peace instead of pressure, you’ll know.

[OlderAndWiser]

Do you want to date or is that also a turn off?

[Asker]

its not a thought im excited about like going to the movies for example

[OlderAndWiser]

Okay, so don’t date but you might regret that decision when you are older and alone.

[Berethor]

Enjoy your life with the cats then, you 30-35, you don't have much time to change your mind.

https://allthetropes.org/wiki/Crazy_Cat_Lady

[LazerBean]

If that's how you feel, then it's good that you are not in a relationship. However most people do not feel that way.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Unless you live in a place where women cannot live independently, you don’t need to be in a relationship, so don’t

[MrChinaski]

You aren't required to be in a relationship to live life well. Do what takes you forward; avoid what holds you back.

[jahaims]

You aren't emotionally healthy enough to see the benefits. You are an avoidant so you don't understand vulnerability in a healthy way.

[Asker]

whats the difference between legit not wanting to and being an avoidant

[Anonymous]

Feelings can happen. I'm an introvert and enjoy my personal time, but spending time with someone I care about is very appealing.

[CuriousMufuxka]

You'll get no argument from me! I had some good ones long ago.

[7Phoenix7]

Probably best for you to stay single then…

[Anonymous]

Companionship

[Anonymous]

Ok and?