Would you still have the baby or want your partner to have the child if it meant she would die?

[Simslover92]

I'm watching Breaking Dawn and it's always made me wonder if I would still have the child if it meant I would die.

[KostasKouvalis]

There was a girl on here. She told her husdand shall anything happened, save the baby and let HER die. He did the opposite and she was furious.

Personally, I'd rather save my wife. We can always make another baby. I guess ultimately the decision would be HER'S.

I'd be fucked either way. If I saved the baby I'd be devistated over losing my wife, if I saved my wife, she might disown me. But I guess I'd rather she be alive. I'd probably save my wife. Building a connection and love takes AGES. Good wives are a dime a dozen, and you can always make another baby.

[DarKnight36]

This question was asked of my mother before I was born. She has a blood disease, and yes, here I am, with you. But my father cried a lot, and it was a huge risk.

[Simslover92]

I'm sorry.

[DarKnight36]

The doctor even said my mother might die. What chaos !

[abc3643]

@darknight36, did your mother die? If so, did she die as part of your birth process?

[DarKnight36]

@abc3643 My mother is still alive, but her illness has never left her. I help her in every way and make sure she has regular hospital checkups.

[DarKnight36]

Thank's For MHO ! Kind regards

[Simslover92]

You're welcome!

[Abbycado]

I doubt anyone can answer that and truly know what they would do until faced with the situation. A lot would change when you are faced with death.

[Simslover92]

That's so very true.

[AgentG111]

Absolutely Fantastic answer!

[Abbycado]

@AgentG111 ty!

[AgentG111]

Absolutely Welcome!

[Nikki1989]

I can't imagine having the child in that situation.

[AI Opinion]

My aim on GAG is to decode messy love dilemmas and add a little spicy clarity to them 😏

That choice is deeply personal, and there’s no universal “right” answer. Some people would sacrifice themselves for the baby, others would prioritize staying alive for existing kids, partner, or their own life dreams.

What matters is values: love, responsibility, and consent. Fantasy makes it romantic. Reality makes it heartbreaking.

[ohsheeT]

Im pro life but if I had to make that choice you would have to stay living

[AviatorTom]

I would leave the decision up to her.

[foxsquirrell]

The question is would you have the baby, or want your partner to have the baby? I think you meant to say would you save the mother or the child.

And to me I think this is very easy. I will save my partner. I can always have another baby!!! And in the case were I could not have another child with her then either I have no children I have a baby with someone else. But to choose to let your partner die to me sounds almost murder. The baby is not even born and dependent on her blood supply and all. I don't regard the baby in her womb more important than her, especially when the option exists of having another baby later.

[HighValue]

No. I'd want her to stay alive, even if it meant the baby was lost. We could still try to make another one in the future, but if you have a compatible partner, that is nearly impossible to find or replace. Plus, I would be attached to her for numerous years already and not even know the baby.

[abc3643]

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gwJy7Z7L658

[abc3643]

For context... (from Wikipedia)...
ER Season 1 Episode 19 Love's Labor Lost - often considered one of the best episodes in TV history.
en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Love%27s_Labor_Lost_(ER)

Plot
Dr. Mark Greene encounters the case of a pregnant woman suffering from what he initially thinks is a urinary tract infection, due to protein in the urine, but what is actually eclampsia. With the obstetrics attending unavailable, he decides to try to deliver her baby in the ER, first through vaginal delivery. Motionless, after a McRoberts maneuver fails, he's forced to perform a crash c-section with tragic results.

[queenofcardio]

One of my favorite shows.

[melssvdv]

I told my husband about this (I already have 2 kids). He said no because the foundation of relationship is man and woman. The second foundation comes with children. Everything starts from man, then woman and then children.

[Twodogs0525]

Ultimately, it would be her choice but I'll make it clear to her, that I choose her. I don't wanna face the world without her, especially with our child. It wouldn't be fair to anyone involved.

[lightbulb27]

Tough call. I've heard case like this and both survived. so imagine making that decision and killing the kid but it was a wrong diagnosis?

Life and death decisions, you be the judge.

[worldscolide]

It depends entirely on what my wife wants. If she wants to give her life for the child, it would break me, but I would respect it. If she chose to terminate, then it would also break me, but I would respect that too.

[RingOfFire]

Want my woman to die in order to have the baby?

Huh? NO WAY!

I am opposed to abortion except in the case of rape, incest or risk of serious physical harm or death to the mother. Therefore this falls into an exception category.

[sage2021]

Children not only need their mother but it's essential in their life.
I just wouldn't have gotten pregnant to begin with.

[melssvdv]

Single fathers say hello.

[Anonymous]

it was actually very common for women to die during or shortly after childbirth for thousands of years all throughout history. Not dying during childbirth is actually a recent thing over the past 50-60 years.

[melssvdv]

That is not true. Only 0.14 percent of women die from that.

[Opinion Owner]

@melssvdv

LEARN TO FUCKING READ.

[Opinion Owner]

@melssvdv

RE-READ what I wrote.

[melssvdv]

It was even less back then. All stems to nutrients back then. And stop being toxic.

[Opinion Owner]

@melssvdv

go fuck yourself. I STUDIED history. It was common for men to have 3-4 wives throughout his lifetime due to them dying due to childbirth during the middle ages.

this was a time BEFORE ultrasounds, BEFORE they could stop bleeding, BEFORE they had any doctors.

[Opinion Owner]

@melssvdv

if you were woman in the middle ages, and you ripped your perineal muscles during childbirth, you will bleed to death. NO STITICHES, NO SURGEONS, NO EPIDURALS.

[melssvdv]

"It was common for men to have 3-4 wives throughout his lifetime due to them dying due to childbirth during the middle ages. "

That is not true. Most men had 1 wife. And if women truly died at that rate we would have way more men in this current timeline than women.

Ultrasounds are bad for your health. And yes they could stop bleeding using many herbal remedies like yarrow, plantain leaves and many more like cloth packing, etc.

And yes, doctors did exist in Middle Ages. In fact, even midwives were enough.

And no, most women did not bleed to death. That is an extreme exception but you are trying to turn it into a general rule. And yes, there were surgeons.

Stop oversimplifying and over exaggerating things. You sound like a Jew trying to spread some pot-stir agenda.

[melssvdv]

And only 1.2% of women died from gestating an infant in Middle Ages.

[Opinion Owner]

@melssvdv

all your BS lies that you make up to bully women and promote men.

the one who is toxic is YOU.

[Opinion Owner]

@melssvdv

you're a man hiding under a woman's account. its pretty obvious

[melssvdv]

I am not bullying women and promoting men. I am just telling you the truth.

You are just one of those agents trying to come up with some pot-stir agenda nonsense to bring some narrative to cause divide and conquer. Or you are just indoctrinated by feminism and everything seems black to you and put your blame on men for no valid reason because your feminist ideology is teaching you that. You are lying so the one who is toxic is you.

[melssvdv]

And no I am a woman. I live in Ireland. Married with 2 kids. Thanks for trying though.

[Opinion Owner]

@melssvdv

women die giving life to others. men die by starting wars and killing others.

try harder next time, asshole.

[Opinion Owner]

@melssvdv

stir up what?

men abandoning their own kids for single moms to raise?

[melssvdv]

We do not "give life". It takes two to make one.

You know what I think you are? You must be one of those feminists upset that no matter how many times the mainstream media tells you that we are equal to men, but history, biology and reality itself shows that men are more powerful than women, that men are the front and women behind. That men are stronger than us. That men are the primary so to speak. That men hold the highest power in this world. That men contribute more than us because of their biology.

You feel defeated, upset and disappointed because you realize that feminism and equality is nothing but a false promise. Hence why you try to demonize men with your nonsense because of your resentment and malicious envy.

This is coming from someone who was a feminist back then. I had experience with it. I was just like you. Demonizing men because of my malicious envy towards men. But now after taking a good 10 months rehab from feminist media, I accept nature and see that men's natural superiority is nothing wrong.

I suggest you to ditch media for a year.

[melssvdv]

"men abandoning their own kids for single moms to raise? "

Only around 0.01 of men abandon their own kids. And majority of modern single women nowadays are deadbeats who tricked the court to say that her husband is bad just in order to get his property, money while living a single life and suddenly blame on men for being single mom.

[Opinion Owner]

@melssvdv

if men didn't abandon their kids for single moms to raise then why are 80-86% of single parents SINGLE MOMS?

Approximately 80% to 86% of single-parent families in the U. S. are headed by mother

h ttps://www. census. gov/newsroom/press-releases/2022/americas-families-and-living-arrangements. html#:~:text=The%20U. S.%20Census%20Bureau%20released%20estimates%20on, had%20at%20least%20one%20child%20under%2012

[Opinion Owner]

@melssvdv

Males constitute the significant majority of criminals, generally accounting for roughly 75% to over 80% of total arrests and convictions.

www.google.com/search

[Opinion Owner]

@melssvdv

Men are at a higher risk for developing, and score higher on measures of, the "Dark Triad" traits—psychopathy, narcissism, and Machiavellianism—compared to women.

Studies indicate that Antisocial Personality Disorder (ASPD) is roughly 3 times more common in men than women,

www.google.com/search

[melssvdv]

"if men didn't abandon their kids for single moms to raise then why are 80-86% of single parents SINGLE MOMS?"

Most men did not "abandon" their kids. It is the woman initiating the divorce, taking the assets and property and kids of the husband and suddenly the mainstream somehow blames on men using the buzzword "men abandon kids" but reality it is women initiating divorce instead.

The court brings the children to the mother. That is default. Regardless of choice. Most people just following the rules of the state. Which is absurd.

You are not bright in your head.

[melssvdv]

"Males constitute the significant majority of criminals, generally accounting for roughly 75% to over 80% of total arrests and convictions."

Let me guess, the reason why you came up with lies and demonizing men in the first place because of this Jewish slop you got from Google?

[melssvdv]

"Men are at a higher risk for developing, and score higher on measures of, the "Dark Triad" traits—psychopathy, narcissism, and Machiavellianism—compared to women. "

Nope. Quite the opposite. Reverso Uno

[Opinion Owner]

@melssvdv

[The court brings the children to the mother. That is default. Regardless of choice. Most people just following the rules of the state. Which is absurd.]

just a google search shows that the vast majority of single moms HAVE NEVER BEEN MARRIED...

so what are you talking about following the rules of the state?

Approximately 28% to 29% of single mothers in the U. S. are divorced, according to recent 2022-2024 data. While divorced mothers make up a significant portion, more than half (roughly 51%) of all single mothers have never been married, with the remaining percentage comprised of separated or widowed individuals

www.google.com/search

[Opinion Owner]

@melssvdv

[
Let me guess, the reason why you came up with lies and demonizing men in the first place because of this Jewish slop you got from Google?]

I have proof. Evidence is here:

www.google.com/search

[Opinion Owner]

@melssvdv

[Nope. Quite the opposite. Reverso Uno]

just because you are in denial about it.. doesn't mean its not true.

facts and facts. research is research.

just cuz you don't like it, it doesn't mean its not true.

your bias is obvious. your toxicity is obvious.

why do you lie and support men unconditionally?

thats why i say you are man hiding under a woman's account

[melssvdv]

Reality beats your feminists "facts". Women do worse.
And no matter what, at the end of the day, the mainstream media is full of crap anyway to put you in this sorry state you are in. You need to touch grass and stop consuming Jewish feminist crap.

[WhitneySnow]

If I meant I would die I would still want to have the baby. If it meant my partner would die I would not want her to have the baby.

[Agape93]

Fuck no. Babies have 0 worth to me. I'd rather sacrifice 1,000 babies if it kept even @Nikki1989 alive, and I barely know her

[NathanDavis]

I just hope that I never have to be too close to this question ever again...

[Lliam]

Absolutely not! My partner is the most important thing. Her life would take precedence.

[MrChinaski]

The easy answer to the binary question is 'no'. Unfortunately, IRL the question will always be playing the odds. Much harder.

[Mike_Hum]

In the real world this doesn't happen. But ultimately a mother's instinct is to sacrifice herself for her children.

[Ariesman81]

I honestly don't think this is true at all. I think a mother's instinct is solely her own survival.

[Mike_Hum]

@Ariesman81 Then you don’t know many mothers.

[Ariesman81]

That's not true either. I think when it comes down to it, the amount of resources dictates a mother's choices. I'm not saying they can't overcome their instincts, just that the instinct is self preservation.

[nastyb]

it really depends on the mother. not all mothers are the same.

[melssvdv]

@Ariesman81 He is Redpill/Bluepill or some crap. He is just symbolising I think

[DextroShade]

No, we already have a kid and I would not trade his mother for another kid that I would now have to look after by myself.

[Ariesman81]

Hmmm... she lives but kills my child. She dies and saves my child. There's only one scenario where she's viewed as a good woman.

[Ariesman81]

Watch this one...
https://youtu.be/OFAwDO6b5KI?si=Qhr43Bn-8Qq5qOTu

[Mark987]

Wow this has to be one of the best questioned asked. Personally I would want her to live.

[dudeinohio]

Tough question. I'd likely want my partner to survive, though.

[msc545]

Honestly, that would depend a lot on how I feel about her.

[Anonymous]

What percentage of births is that? If that's the case it's her choice all the way

[WhatIsYourZodiac]

Nope never ever... baby can be produced again right

[Anonymous]

I think if a partener truly loves you can’t stand the thought of you dying

[queenofcardio]

I wouldn't have the baby.

[DonaldDarko]

I'm pro choice, pro gun, pro small government.

[FunkyMonkee]

No! That's why we chose to abort.

[exitseven]

I would not want her to die.

[eagle1951]

man that's a hard question

[Simslover92]

It is indeed.

[Cidknee]

I can't say that I would.

[fish5505_87]

Let's pray you are never in that situation!

[Siggie2]

Never

[Anonymous]

Never.