How does culture influence the way people express love, especially when two people come from different cultural backgrounds?

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OlderAndWiser · Accepted Answer

I am a 71 year-old Caucasian male and my wife is a 62 year-old Oriental female. She rarely says "I love you," but when she does, it means everything to me. Every morning, when I wake up and she has already gone to work, I find that she has placed a coffee cup on the Keurig, ready for me to brew my first cup. When we are walking somewhere, she will reach for my hand and hold it while we stroll. She shows love more than she talks love.

I tell her "I love you" a little more often than she says it to me, but I also tell her, "I'm glad you're my wife," or, "if we weren't already married, I'd propose to you right now!" But I also show love in my actions to her, such as taking her to her favorite restaurant much more often than we go to my favorite restaurant, encouraging her to go back to China to visit her family and paying her travel expenses, etc. And I learned how to say, "I will love you forever" in Mandarin.

AgentG111 · Accepted Answer

Excellent question and definitely multiple answers.

From personal experience of dating ladies who were extremely religious, Asian, Cherokee Indian, black, Mexican, Latino and several from white types of backgrounds including Australian and eastern USA.

WoW whirlwind is basically how I would describe it.

It can work but... Parents and what they are told to do or raised to do will screw it up in the end like no other.

DishLady · Accepted Answer

Even within the same background it can be awkward bc of who each person has been with in the past. For example, I was experiencing what I thought was “hot and cold” behavior from a fellow and presumed he wasn’t interested, but turns out he was emotionally stunted and actually nuts about me… and I had no idea at all.

A little more mutual empathy and a little less fear and we’d be a really good thing rn, but unfortunately the most recent actions could lead to permanent bridge-burning. Oh well!

Vevv123 · Accepted Answer

For me, I’m very expressive, so they will definitely know. Hugs, cooking for them, words, always wanting to be with them, and being around family. Someone from another culture would probably feel suffocated and I would probably be depressed. 😁😅 But I’m sure regardless of culture a couple can find a way to meet in the middle.

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

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Culture shapes love languages: some cultures show love through words and touch, others through actions, family duty, or financial support. When two cultures mix, one might see public affection as normal, the other as a red flag. Misunderstandings, “coldness,” or “lovebombing” can just be cultural style. Communication and curiosity turn that clash into chemistry.

ohsheeT · Answer

I believe there universal language , that is that energy that can feel and can touch the other person's heart and energy and when two people understand energy.
Those two energies can become one that happens , everything is possible

MontBlanc · Answer

Culture shapes how people express love through gestures, communication styles, and expectations.

When 2 people come from different cultural backgrounds, understanding and adapting to each other’s norms becomes essential.

Love isn’t just about feelings, it’s also about respecting each other’s perspectives, finding common ground, and creating shared ways to show care that feel authentic to both.

queenofcardio · Answer

People from my culture rarely ever show PDA. They show love through their actions by taking care of people. Typically, they don't vocally express their love. I grew up in a house where my parents prayed for us instead of vocally saying they loved us.

I have dated outside my culture so this is a topic that I have discussed with people that I have dated. I do also tend to show love through my actions.

Maybe_Maybe_not · Answer

I'm thinking of PDA, since this notion has its own acronym, I assume it's generalized enough across USA to be culturally significant.

Yet I've never heard of it before landing here, on g@g. I mean, I'm sure I could find people around me who could dislike sharing affection in public, but I don't think I would find enough people to consider this distaste as of cultural origin, most likely of psychological, individual origin instead...

exitseven · Answer

Your environment has a lot to do with how you handle relationships. My parents neevr had a loving relationship. I never saw them kiss. Half the time they did not spesk to each other. I just grew up thinking that it was normal. As a result I became a pretty closed off person. It interfered with my relationships my whole life.

lightbulb27 · Answer

Some are more reserved and some are not. Its the culture, individual, how they want to live. It's a question of how independent minded that person is. It' your life, live the way you want... as long as you are in a free society.

My wife and I mixed culture, but similar in expression.

Seangreen · Answer

having a picture of a white dude and Asian chick is a terrible idea because it doesn't matter anything about culture, that combo automatically combine in the presence of each other to create the perfect match.

MidnightRivers · Answer

I dated a girl from Morrocco she was very caring loyal sweet but assertive, conpared the the culture in UK it felt loving. UK culture influences love in a different way, we're more cold and reserved and more afraid to really express love

Nikki1989 · Answer

In some cultures, love is measured by how well you fulfil your roles.

Abbycado · Answer

I come from the same cultural background and very similar upbringing. I think we express it pretty much like everyone else does where I am from.

TonyMetal___86 · Answer

I think that love is the same everywhere, it's all about care, respect and how you treat your other half!

LC75LC71 · Answer

Shouldn't matter unless/until others have a problem.

Anonymous · Answer

Hmm 🧐🤔  I guess they buy a Hybrid Car 🚗 😄🫣😄

eagle1951 · Answer

Love knows no country

Zionne · Answer

i tought it was capt. America

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