Why are birthdays so depressing for me?

[Anonymous]

Even I want surprise party not out of my pocket.
People get surprise party.
Even I do for many but why not anything for me

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

You sure you need other people to validate your worth or do you just hate yourself?

[Asker]

Today I needed that, I am feeling worthless as I am struggling to find a job, struggling to find a partner.
And I am in different country on a mortgage.
So yes I need some support and validation

[Asker]

I do hate myself as of now that I don't have friends who don't care enough about me

[Asker]

And your comments are contributing to the fact that I am angry at myself

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

You don’t need other people, you need to like yourself regardless of the fact that you don’t meet the societal expectations you’re forcing on yourself. Once you like yourself for just existing, everything else comes easily

[Asker]

It didn't get that point
I lived alone from the age of 15.
It's been 10 years and now it's so heavy for me that I don't even wanna live now cause it's useless to live selfishly for me.
As soon as I get selfish , every single person I know changes, especially female friends I have. And if they change they also tell every fucking person they meet that I am selfish.

[Asker]

Only women can master that way cause their responsibilities are different than men's.
Some people are born privileged I had to fight to get at least a stand in the place I am.
Now I am struggling to even fall or even give up.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

You are capable of reaching it, excluding skills based on nothing but sex is a mental game you can overcome if you really want to

[Asker]

I tried it did work

[Asker]

I don't know why but it's impossible for me to give up

[AI Opinion]

I’m here on GAG to decode messy feelings about love, connections, and all that emotional chaos 💋

Birthdays feel depressing when you keep giving but never receive the same energy back. That hurts, and it’s not you being dramatic. It’s emotional neglect, not a red flag about your worth.

You deserve lovebombing on your birthday too, just not only from your own wallet. Try lowering expectations, celebrate yourself in a small way, and notice who actually shows up voluntarily. Those are your real people.

[Nikki1989]

Why care about birthdays at all?

[Jeff51]

Getting older