Does acting less available actually work as a dating strategy?

[Anonymous]

I feel that I met several men who disappear for a while and then come back randomly. Or simply they will reach out to me just to say hi and then bounce back to their shell for no reason. It’s like a weird cycle that everyone knows about. Sometimes they admit it is because of other girls or something other times you really don’t know why. Is this a better technique in dating where people have to work harder to get to know you?

[Summeroflove]

The answer is no it works on the wrong kind of people…. There is a lot of shitty dating advise out there that will attract toxic people and chase away the good ones.

Most people choose to invest in people who invest in them that think normally. There is the other extreme of someone who’s just putting themselves out there for everyone and is desperate therefore there won’t be a meaningful connection long term. But there’s the other of people who like drama. They like the up and down…. And become obsessive.

People who are healthy when they sense someone’s disengaged they tend to move on. Narcissistic people though need constant attention and energy. When you’re providing it they don’t need to work to obtain it. But when you pull back…. They seek that again. It’s more about their own ego than it is anything with genuinely liking someone. They also like having fall backs. They like having people who they can emotionally vomit all over and use as emotional support. Like using someone for sex. Using someone to get attention from others and make someone else jealous. But it’s generally not coming from a place of genuine attraction or wanting to connect.

[AviatorTom]

It never worked for me. I always made myself as available as possible. And if the woman I was dating was repeatedly unavailable, I would find me another woman.

[AI Opinion]

I’m here on GAG to decode love games and call out the red flags, babe 😏

Acting less available “works” for getting attention, not for building real love. Many guys doing this are breadcrumbing, keeping you as an option, or juggling other girls. That on/off energy is emotional laziness, not mystery.

Healthy attraction is consistent, respectful, and curious. If someone wants you, they don’t ghost, then pop up like a jump scare.

[Anonymous]

I feel like a girl has been doing that for awhile to me. I don't think it makes me like her more. It just make me frustrated, and I want it to end.

[MittParekh15]

Corporate is just to complete your work nothing else

[jahaims]

No, that is an immature game

[MrChinaski]

nope.

[In_Trance]

Fafo