Why do I feel like I’ll be alone forever and never truly loved?

[Anonymous]

'Life is pain'
It just hurts, no one understands how desperately I need love.
I have tried all the ways to keep my mind out of love or relationship or just someone.
I never felt wanted and now it's a burden

[BCRanger10]

Based on my experience of having been in that position many years ago, my first thought is that you probably don't know yourself as well as you ought to. Your strengths, your shortcomings, what you have to offer, what your advantages are, all of that. That's part of it at least. This really is a key part, because it will help you to develop a sense of peace and calm with where you are in life, even in your single life. I know it might seem more fun and fulfilling to be in a relationship, but you do have to develop that part of you first. A good way to think about it is for you to be the man of your dreams in order to find the woman of your dreams.

But truly, if it's as you say it is, you ought to work on being satisfied with your life without a relationship first.

Another is that you probably don't what you want and how to get it. And I don't just mean any woman, but the particular kind of woman who would be the best fit for you, the kind of woman who would best help you to reach into those deeper parts of your heart and bring you a sense of completion. By that, I mean having a woman who shares your values and goals, but also, whether she is silly, playful, and sanguine, or whether she is calm, thoughtful, and reserved, and such other questions.

If it would help, I wrote a MyTake about this in 2016, which I'd recommend you give a read...

A Brief Memoir and A Few Pointers From A Late Bloomer In Dating

My other guess though is that there is pain or there are some other unresolved issues from your past that cloud your judgment and how you see yourself, whether it's the way you were raised, bullying, being mistreated by past relationships or pursuits, and such.

I could go on, but I am long overdue to get to bed, so I'll have to cut it off here, and for that, I am sorry. I see stuff like this and it brings me back to those days. It makes me sad and really wish that I could do more.

[Anonymous]

Because you're still looking for self worth in other people. Self worth comes from within. People cannot give you joy, you have to have that already. People can only enhance the joy that already exists. If you look for someone else to give your life meaning you'll always be unhappy, and likely make them unhappy (even if that wasn't your intent).

[Nikki1989]

You are like a grey sprinkle on a rainbow cupcake. Cheer up.

Life is what you make of it, but some folk will always seek to blame others for their misfortunes.

[Anonymous]

Is it pity you'd like?

[Asker]

Ya it's hurting right now.

[Asker]

It's hurting so much.
And I don't have anyone to share, or be calm. It's like I am in the dark.