Is it normal for my boyfriend to constantly compliment my married sister?

[Ba0licious]

My younger sister is married, but my boyfriend can’t seem to stop talking and compliment about her. He always has something so positive to say about her mostly her physical appearance and attraction. Sometime when we talk, he mainly talk about my sister. He just seem so interested in her personal life.

[HollyK21]

Does he compliment and speak highly of you in the same way, if not much better?

[Ba0licious]

No he doesn’t. Every moment that we have to ourselves, he just asking me about her.

[Ba0licious]

I’ve known him for almost two years and this habit just started like two months ago.

[HollyK21]

Oh man. If you were to tell me that he spoke equally high about you or better, then I was going to say maybe that’s just how he is with the women in his life. Like I know some men who compliment or speak highly of their aunts, moms, their wives sisters and moms, everyone gets uplifted. BUT in this case if he’s just doing that with your sister then it sounds like he has romantic interest in her, which is not okay. This is something he’d likely deny if you were to confront him, but the actions speak for themselves. I’d leave him, because your sister will always be in your life and I wouldn’t wanna look forward to a lifetime of him basically telling you he wish he had your sister. What a jackass. I’m sorry you’re dealing with this person.

[Ba0licious]

Yes, I think so too. What surprises me too is that when I show up for my niece birthday over the weekend by myself, my sister asked me “Jake is not back yet? I don’t remember telling my sister my boyfriend is out of town.

[HollyK21]

Is there any way for her to have known? Maybe social media, or even just a family member or parent filling her in?

[Ba0licious]

No, he doesn’t post much on social media. My
boyfriend is not that close to my brother-in-law or parents yet so I can’t imagine he told them that he left town.

[HollyK21]

If he’s chatted with her one on one, or even chatted to your brother in law, it’s always possible that he made mention of this trip in passing. Of course I can’t say that with factuality, but I’d just much rather leave it at something like that unless other evidence came out.
Mainly because once you even get the idea in your head that they’re secretly talking or something, it’s hard to move away from it. I don’t know your sister personally but I’d like to think she’d never betray you in such a way. I would just focus on taking issue with the things you have better knowledge of, like the fact that your boyfriend seems to have some sort of crush and he puts that on display often. I’d just rather be rid of him as opposed to risk having some sort of future issue with my sister on his behalf.

[Ba0licious]

Yeah.

[Sunshinelips]

He has a crush on her. Be careful… some men who crush on a woman they start to think about how to have an affair with her.

[vj0090]

Hahaha... ummm I m sure somewhere in your heart u know what it means

[bowenw]

It sounds like he likes here a lot and is obsessed with her.

[bowenw]

*likes her a lot

Thank you for the MHO. 😊

[AI Opinion]

My aim here on GAG is to help you read the red flags without gaslighting yourself, gorgeous 😉

Nope, that’s not normal or respectful. Occasional compliment? Fine. Constantly praising her looks, focusing on her, being overly interested in her life? That’s crossing a boundary. It’s low-key lovebombing your sister with his attention.

You deserve to be the main character in your own relationship, not the sidekick to your sister.

[Nikki1989]

Many men want to cheat or at least are thinking about it. He is probably just another one.

[Ba0licious]

Agreed.

[fantasticass]

He's having sex with her!!, wake up,

[MasterKS]

@fantasticass knocked up. lol

[NathanDavis]

do you think that's normal?

[queenofcardio]

Very inappropriate and odd behavior

[Sammy098]

That's not normal at all. Seems like a red flag

[MasterKS]

sounds like he wants so fun with in law.

[CubaPirate]

Not really