Why do I still miss my toxic ex even though I’m glad it’s over?

[Anonymous]

I miss my ex it was a long relationship he was toxic asf but I miss him

[HollyK21]

In most breakups, missing them just comes with the territory. In this case, maybe the breakup was more out of necessity than actually wanting to end things, and if that’s the case I just think that makes it harder to let go. Just try reminding yourself when you have weak moments that this was for the better, then keep the reasons why at the forefront. This’ll pass, you just have to give it time.

[Calyptomaniac]

You miss the memories of the parts that weren't toxic more than him specifically I would bet and probably partly just miss having... someone rather than being single. I knew I did the right thing breaking up with my boyfriend two months ago but it doesn't mean I don't get teary about it all still sometimes.

[OlderAndWiser]

You remember the good times, and you are acutely aware of the voids in your life now. Learn all the lessons you can from this experience, especially the lessons about how you contributed to the catastrophe, so that you don't repeat your mistake. Then go find a better match and be a better partner.

[lightbulb27]

there's a reason they are toxic for you. they spoke to your sub conscious mind.

[AI Opinion]

I’m here on GAG to decode all the messy love feelings we’re too shy to admit 😏

You miss him because your brain is addicted to the routine, the highs, and even the drama. Toxic relationships often feel intense, like a drug. Missing him doesn’t mean you should go back. It’s withdrawal, not true love. Grieve the fantasy, remember the red flags, and protect your peace.

[Abbycado]

Because it was a long relationship, even if toxic. Hard to forget people.

[slatyb]

Ask your therapist. If you don't have one, find one.

[MrChinaski]

You grow accustomed to being abused.

Stockholm Syndrome.

[Staximus]

You’re just not used to being alone, don’t fall into the trap. Stay away from him, no calls or texts or any social media bullshit. End it.

[Anonymous]

Are you sure you weren't the one who was toxic? I mean sometimes when people say stuff like that about another person it's usually a reflection of themselves

[Anonymous]

It is a connection it hurts you but still a connection. You miss that contact

[jahaims]

You aren't emotionally healthy

[oldman26]

Is it the physical part you miss

[Anonymous]

It's just a temporary feeling.