Why is it people tend to be more pessimistic about their social lives than they should be?

[Nikki1989]

[Taurus_Woman]

People are often more pessimistic about their social lives because they judge themselves from the inside while comparing others from the outside. They notice every awkward moment, rejection, or insecurity in themselves, but only see the polished surface of other people’s lives.

Social media also makes friendships and relationships look happier and more effortless than they really are. In reality, many people feel lonely, uncertain, or disconnected sometimes , they just hide it better.

[Crimsyjo]

Explain some more detail please. Pessimistic about their friends? Or a lack of satisfaction?

[Nikki1989]

Across all social situations.

[Crimsyjo]

Ok why shouldn't they be pessimistic? If their life does suck? There is always likely to be people worse off but that doesn't change the feeling one has living their own life's problems.

[DecentMan]

Because lots of other people pretend on line they have these amazing social lives when the reality is that most people sit for hours with people who drain their energy and don’t really bring anything to their lives. Social media isn’t real - and the posts are a cry for help most of the time. Accept what you have and start from there - ;)

[Nikki1989]

Our social life only exists one day/night a week at the very most, but we are content with that.

[DecentMan]

Well that’s great then ! If your happy with it then it’s great

[Jen_oic]

Because everyone is so critical