Why is my husband so upset I had late drinks with male friends?

[TheLovelyWoman]

I didn’t think it was a big deal so I didn’t let my husband know. I had dinner and a few drinks with my guy friends after work and didn’t get home until 11pm. One friend ended up dropping me off because I was too tipsy to drive and my husband saw it.

[AI Opinion]

My aim on GAG is to decode relationship drama and help you not accidentally wave red flags you don’t mean to wave 😏

Your husband isn’t mad about “drinks with guys,” he’s mad about secrecy + timing + alcohol + you getting dropped off tipsy by another man at 11 pm. That combo screams lovebombing/cheating vibes in his head, even if nothing happened.

You broke his trust, not just curfew. If you want this to calm down, own it fully, apologize without excuses, reassure him clearly, and set new boundaries together about opposite-sex friends and late nights.

[HollyK21]

I swear you’re always in the most outrageous situations😩

[TheLovelyWoman]

Because I put myself in those situations.

[fishbone77]

that's because they're totally made up

[Anonymous]

If it was one guy, it would be a problem. But it sounds like you went in a group. Different matter.

One on one it's a date no matter the intention.

On that same token if my wife did that I'd be uncomfortable with it too. I'd insist on coming along. If she said no, or hid it from me, or waited til after the fact to tell me I'd have issues with it. I don't tolerate dishonesty in my relationships. And telling me after the fact screaming dishonesty.

Reverse the genders, if you're not okay with your husband going out with a group of attractive women, then he has every right to be upset with you.

[Opinion Owner]

Bottom line, you hid it from your husband. He has every right to be pissed off at you. A committed married woman doesn't hide things from her husband.

[melnc]

I'm genuinely confused by your question. Thought you wanted advice, but clearly you just wanted backup for your bad choices. No respect, no heads up, no guilt and you're wondering why he's upset? Girl, the only mystery here is how you still think you're right.

[choco-latte]

Does your husband know that you supposedly sleep with all of these different men that you post about?

[ThinkerShell]

So the correct question is: why he so upset when you hide things from him while are drinking with others late at night
Ask this, and you'll find out :)

[molonski2]

Depends if you are considering fcking the friend or not I guess.

Maybe you should have called him saying you were busy?

[jkreuger95]

Potential to cheat. Even if you didn't, you were inebriated and put yourself (in your husbands eyes), into a bad situation

[Anonymous]

Yet another one of these wonderful fanciful made up stories.

[dudeinohio]

Well, being out late with a guy is kind of suspicious.

[_Jenny_]

He’s jealous