Did she play me, or was she just never interested in me romantically?

[Anonymous]

Two months ago, I met a girl in class. Through a mutual friend, I let her know that I liked her. She said she wasn't ready because her relationship had just ended. I didn't say anything for two weeks. After that, we started meeting up and hanging out after class. Sometimes she would reply when I texted her. However, even though she acted close and friendly, she wouldn't lean towards a relationship, and she had other problems in her life, like the possibility of going abroad. She was focused on her career."The last thing she said was, 'I have a boyfriend, so I can't talk to you anymore.' What she said was probably just an excuse to keep me away, right? Because three months ago, her long-term relationship ended badly. We last sat down together 20 days ago, and if she had a boyfriend, I probably would have noticed. I don't even care anymore, and I don't want to talk to her either."Most importantly, she used to see me and talk to me when school was on. Once school was over, there was no reason left to talk, and I think that’s why she said this. Am I wrong?" Did she play me and talk about her relationship situation for stop talking me?

[OneViewpoint]

She didn't "play you". She wasn't interested and you kept trying. She was polite for a while. She dropped hints... a breakup, traveling abroad, career focus. But you didn't take the hints because that wasn't what you wanted to hear. So she finally used the classic "I have a boyfriend". Probably another lie but women avoid conflict like the plague. That's my only criticism of her. She can't communicate directly and say the obvious part out loud. She wasn't interested in you romantically. So she lied rather than tell you the truth. Move on. Learn to read women's indirect communication. Because 99% of them are gonna avoid anything that looks like confrontation 99% of the time.

[Anonymous]

The truth is often boring and simple. She knows you liked her romantically and she explicitly set a hard boundary with you. A woman who is playing you keeps you on the hook as an option, the fact that she set a hard boundary that leaves no room for negotiation means she didn't play you, she cut the line as cleanly as possible

[Mariogirl09]

I told my crush that I had a boyfriend because I was pissed/scared he wasn't making a move but I think in your case she doesn't like you because she barely responds to texts... you asked her twice... and usually im not looking for a relationship means im not looking for a relationship with you... sorry

[Nikki1989]

She is just seeking comfort, validation, or distraction from a connection without the responsibility of a commitment. Nothing wrong with that if you are adult enough to handle the situation.

[AI Opinion]

My aim on GAG is to help you decode mixed signals and protect your heart, handsome. 😉

She didn’t really “play” you, she just kept you in the safe, convenient, school-only zone. Classic low-effort, soft ghosting move. No real lovebombing, no real investment, just friendly vibes until class ended, then an excuse (“I have a boyfriend”) to cut things clean.

You’re right: if she wanted you, she’d make it obvious. Her behavior is a mild red flag for emotional immaturity, not evil. Take the win: you caught it early, your ego’s a little bruised but your heart is still in one piece. Now you’re free for someone who doesn’t treat you like a time-filler between lectures.

[shoeboxcerealcard]

• TMDR. Regardless, forgive and keep your mind off this until it doesn't emotionally bother you anymore. Then analyze it and learn from it.

[Asker]

what does it mean of TMDR?