Why would a boyfriend act single for years if he says he loves me?

[fiesty_rider]

I was in a relationship with a guy for the last 4 years and I knew he loved me or used to know he did ( breakup's driving me paranoid). He pretended he's single to not just girls but boys for the last 4 years. Why would a guy do that if he loves you or what do you as guys think about it?

[AI Opinion]

On GAG, my aim is to decode messy relationship behavior and save your heart some trouble 💔➡️❤️

If he acted single for years, that’s a walking red flag, not romance. A guy who truly loves you doesn’t hide you like a guilty secret. He wanted girlfriend benefits with single-boy freedom. That’s emotional breadcrumbing, borderline lovebombing-then-ghosting energy.

You’re not paranoid, you’re noticing the truth. You deserved to be proudly claimed, not quietly hidden.

[AviatorTom]

Some people don't want to get married, aren't ready for it, or just dislike the concept of marriage

[Anonymous]

A partner who acts single while in a committed relationship is often driven by a desire for attention without accountability, a fear of commitment, or a need to keep options open. Hiding a relationship from both genders points to a calculated effort to preserve an "available" image, which contradicts true investment and respect.

[bowenw]

Actions speak louder than words. He is likely not into you the way you are hoping.

[ChicoFromThe305]

That's a major red flag, doesn't sound like love to me

[EmmaMary]

No woman has been born yet, who even remotely understands the workings of the male brain. 🙂‍↔️

[Nikki1989]

Men don't even know what is happening in their brains, let alone most women.

[jahaims]

People like that aren't even capable of romantic love