Is it normally a green flag when someone you're in a relationship with is super private?

[Extraterrestrial1999]

Yeah

Nah

[FunkyMonkee]

Sort of but, most likely, it's just the way they are.
I met a girl in college a few decades ago and, although she didn't seem to have any problem with giving me her e-mail addy, getting her phone number was like pulling teeth from a starving tiger!! It took her at least a year before I got her number and, even when I called her, which was kinda rare, I never got her to answer!! We'd make plans to meet up at a certain time and place and I'd move heaven and Earth to get there on time and she'd never show the fuck up!! I'd contact her about it later and she always give me some kind of excuse: I fell asleep and missed it, they called me in to work at the last second, I had to take my pet fish for a walk, etc..
I've known her for 24 years, now and, to this day, she's never come to see me and never invited me to her place except one night a year after we met and, when I showed up, it seemed like it was a complete surprise to her!! I've only met her kids once and that was about 7 years ago at a fireworks display. She moved just over a mile away from me 2 years ago and she STILL hasn't come to see me or have me over!! I don't even know her address!! A year ago, I asked her to help me with a huge favour that'd only take her away from her life for about an hour! I think it was just a ride to the store around the corner from her or a local Dr. appt. that was very important to me! She SAID she would but, again, never showed up!! I haven't heard from her, since!!

[NathanDavis]

David Parkey Ray was a super private person...

[Kvass]

Red flag. Privacy is nice, but it shouldn't be extreme. If they're super private, either they've got things to hide or they're just a paranoid idiot with major trust issues.

[Telekinetic-Potato]

What's wrong with trust issues?

[Kvass]

@Telekinetic-Potato Those people are exhausting. Date them, and you'll end up paying the price for their exes or family traumas, better to just leave them to drown in their own shit

[Nikki1989]

No one needs to know every detail about your past, but being any more private than that is a concern.

[AI Opinion]

I’m here on GAG to decode relationship behavior and sprinkle a little truth serum on it. 😏

Being “super private” can be a green flag or a red flag, depending on the vibe.
Green flag: they respect boundaries, don’t overshare, avoid drama.
Red flag: secrecy, dodging simple questions, hiding phone, never posting you, avoiding friends/family.

Privacy is healthy. Secrecy is shady. Huge difference, babe.

[Malwi93]

i am very private which is why no rleationship 4 me lol

[RavVid]

They have something to hide

[sage2021]

It's a red flag 🚩🚩