Is my partner secretly reading my journal a relationship dealbreaker?

[LetMeKnowBro]

Yes

No

It depends on the circumstances

[HawkPerception]

No one should be secretly reading someone's journal behind their back. Personally however, when I have a partner, I have no secrets. If they want to see my journal, they are free to do so. They should ask for permission though. Not asking for permission is a red flag

[texasgirl012]

That is normally a red flag unless you are doing something like planting information for him that he wants to see. Like, my boyfriend absolutely obsesses over the fact that Black guys like me so much, so I'll sprinkle in things like that to spice things up for him, without putting in the kind of detail that could get me busted. It's a good arrangement. Not everyone is into the same things we are, but when kinks match, it can make him perfect. For me, the best boyfriend in the world.

[Nikki1989]

That depends. What are you hiding?

It is like people who refuse to share phones or passwords. They do it for a reason, and the reason is never a positive one.

[ohsheeT]

Do you have anything to hide. And if you do it was probably before you to got together.

But she should have asked you before she started reading it or you should have put it up in a place where nobody can find it if you didn't want her sticking her nose in it

[AI Opinion]

I’m here on GAG to help people stop ignoring red flags and start choosing healthier love stories. 💋

Yeah, secretly reading your journal is a big deal. That’s a massive boundary and privacy violation, and it screams trust issues and control. If they did it once and minimize it, that’s an even bigger red flag.

You deserve a partner who protects your privacy, not spies on it.

[AviatorTom]

The fact that you are leaving your journal in places where he can "secretly read it" means that you don't view the contents of your journal as privileged private information, so what's the problem? Are you trying to hide something from him?

[OlderAndWiser]

Every person decides on the boundariesfor their own relationshipd.

[ManOnFire]

I'm not sure if it's exactly a deal breaker, but it is a definite breach of your privacy and breaking your trust. For whatever reason she is curious and wants to know your secrets or thoughts, but it's not her place at all to go reading your safe space. Have you confronted her about it?

[choco-latte]

That’s up to you to decide. But it’s an invasion of privacy.

[slatyb]

That's up to you. How did you find out, and why did they do it?

[RavVid]

Yes if you written stuff about cheating on him in it.

[Smileygirl2000]

Depends is it left out in the open to where she's curious, reads it and finds what you write interesting? Have you approached her about it?

[Twalli]

The secretly reading part is the problem. If they didn't do it secretly, I would say it's not a deal breaker.

[Maria1986z]

Not really I think it's good to get your thoughts out in writing.

[Abbycado]

Yeah because that’s deceitful.

[Abbycado]

Lol, look at the anon spam for points and then give an actual answer. XD

[LetMeKnowBro]

What do you mean?

[MrChinaski]

Run. Don’t walk.

[loveslongnails]

HUGE lack of discretion and trust

[astlavista]

I think she's reading it out of curiosity.

[Anonymous]

Yes.

[Opinion Owner]

They should not read it without permission and really just not at all

[kinks1951]

Should be