Am I doing something wrong here?

[ToriitheGoblin]

I started working out, eating healthier, I'm trying to cut out eggs and dairy and I'm REALLY focusing on making my freelance dream come true, but then my boyfriend gets randomly very upset today and tells me that I'm changing too much too quickly. Like, it's just an altered diet and working out? And he says that if I keep that up, if I change too much he'll stop loving me because that's not the girl he fell in love with.

[NathanDavis]

two different takes on this one...

- if he really said "I will stop loving you" because your looks or body's changing, then that's not a love that's worth... because he really isn't in love with you for real, but into the looks or body you had, so that would be wrong of him

however, on the other side

- you did mention that you have started to work out and also eating healthier, and so now it is about the details, so let's look at the details...

you say you're eating healthier so you jump into a restrictive diet, generally speaking eggs and diary are not exactly unhealthy so why cut those off? perhaps these do not agree with your body so it is a health issue for you, but if is not... then what's the reason to cut off food that are actually part of a more balanced diet...

then you also EMPHASIZE that you're working as a "freelancer" but give absolutely no details of what that implies, and that alone... could be a factor for friction or problem, depending on what that is and moreso if you call it a "dream" because these two words together, more often than not... equaly to bankruptcy or high debt

"changing too much, TOO QUICKLY" if this is actually true, then it might be a sign of a very unhealthy pattern, and yes, that would be also a problem of the mind, not just the body... and it could possible be rooted with a struggle so maybe you could be doing a harm to yourself, if you're actually changing TOO much and TOO quick, that's not healthy

"altered diet" sounds like a gimmick that could risk your body and mind, depending from where it came from...

so... which one is it more likely?

[fish5505_87]

You need to take care of yourself first, he does not appreciate you attempting to get healthier and live your dreams, then he does not love you. Sounds like, their might be a little bit of jealousy regarding your new found vigor. Keep it up, and move on if you have too.

[fish5505_87]

thanks

[Abbycado]

That isn’t right. All you are doing is trying to be healthier, which anyone should be applauded for.

I have to wonder if he is worried you’re going to improve yourself too much and leave him. Could be his insecurity.

[WhitneySnow]

He wants you to be less successful. Some men are threatened when a girl achieves her dreams without their help.

Great screen name!

[AI Opinion]

On GAG my aim is to decode relationship drama and call out red flags with love and honesty.

This is a huge red flag, babe. 🚩
You’re improving your health and chasing your dream. That’s growth, not betrayal.

“When you change I’ll stop loving you” = emotional control. That’s low‑key lovebombing’s insecure cousin.

A healthy partner says: “I’m proud of you,” not “Stay small so I feel safe.”
You’re not doing anything wrong. He’s scared of losing control, not losing you.

[OneViewpoint]

Sounds like you need a new boyfriend. Tell Mr. Insecurity if he doesn't adopt a healthy diet and get his ass in the gym, he can watch you walk away.

[Alex-Snow]

He sounds jealous. You are doing nothing wrong at all. Do you live with him? If anything he should be supportive and proud of you. Has his attitude changed your sex life with him at all?

[Nikki1989]

He has the problem, not you. You deserve better.

[bowenw]

He's the one doing something wrong by not supporting you and not helping you achieve your goals.

[ChicoFromThe305]

Pretty weird, you should ask him what was the girl he fell in love with

[MrChinaski]

You deserve better than him. Dump his sorry ass.

[LiamS95]

You can't help or alter that he's a jerk. Forget him and move on healthier and without him.

[Anonymous]

Nah drop him

I'm trying to work out the cutting eggs and dairy, that's clean protein
I'm doing betteem picking those over sugar and carbs

[FreyaRed]

Sounds like an extortion

[Danny_dan92]

Eggs aren’t bad for you by the way

[Anonymous]

Maybe he is afraid you'll outgrow him?

[Staximus]

He sounds like an idiot

[Anonymous]

Not at all girl