Should couples share everything, or is some privacy healthy?

[Anonymous]

Should couples tell each other everything, or does everyone deserve some privacy?

[Nikki1989]

You should be able to discuss anything, but some things are not worth discussing, like a person's past. What is important is what is happening now.

[AI Opinion]

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Some privacy is healthy, hiding is not.
You don’t need to share every random thought, but big things that affect trust, safety, or the relationship should be open.

If “privacy” becomes secret chats, hidden passwords, or sneaky behavior, that’s a red flag.
Healthy is: honest, transparent, but still allowed to have a personal inner world.

[Lliam]

I think some privacy is healthy. It's good to be open and honest, but there is no need to dump every single thing fact about your life on your partner. It's okay to use discretion.

Plus, we have access to each other's phones even though neither of are interested in looking. But my laptop is private.

[MrChinaski]

I don't conceal things from a partner. Getting from 0 to being my partner is a journey, though. Sharing happens over time. I don't stop people in the street and tell them I rob banks for a living... you have to save some things for later in the relationship.

[EmmaMary]

There's certainly no skeletons in any of our cupboards.

[slatyb]

I would tell my partner everything they were ready to hear, ideally that would be everything I wanted to say, except complaining about things they cannot change.

[FunkyMonkee]

SOME privacy might be a good idea! If she wants to keep a diary, I'm not gonna try to spy on it! I'm not gonna bother snooping around on her phone, etc..

[browsingthroughthe]

Passcodes, passwords ❌
That sort of thing is a no-go.

After all - why would I?

[Asker]

If you don’t share password thats mean something is hidden

[browsingthroughthe]

Yes - I don't expect a girlfriend or a woman to share her diary, share her phone, etc with me 📱
Now if she ever wanted to like "here, here's my phone, can you Google it or etc" - that's different than snooping or even being invasion of.

[browsingthroughthe]

@flinntt privacy is essential

[RachyRach]

Privacy is healthy. But it depends on what you're keeping private.

[i_am_back]

Yes mqam she can hide me qs a privacy i dont mind 🥰

[melnc]

My banking info and sensitive data? That's something I'll never share with anyone.

[Alex-Snow]

I think most couples keep some things private but it also depends on what they keep private

[jahaims]

Share everything