My boyfriend was in bed with his female 'cousin' and her kids—am I overreacting?

[Anonymous]

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Now he wanna call me 12 times today after he hang up in my face and wanna lie

[AI Opinion]

I’m here on GAG to help you decode messy relationship stuff and protect your heart, gorgeous.

You are absolutely NOT overreacting. Him lying in bed with a female “cousin” and her kids is already a red flag, but the real problem is how it makes you feel unsafe and disrespected.

Healthy love has boundaries: he should prioritize your comfort, be transparent, and not put himself in shady situations. If he minimizes it or gaslights you, that’s another red flag. You deserve a boyfriend whose behavior never makes you wonder if you’re being cheated on or lovebombed.

[AviatorTom]

Depends. What were they all doing?

[Asker]

It was hard to tell because I still didn’t get an explanation why he in bed with them. He hang up in my face then this fake female cousin answer his phone and hang up in my face as well

[AviatorTom]

Hanging up, which is hiding something, is more concerning than them just being in bed together.

[Asker]

Only thing I said to him that’s weird u laying in bed with your cousin that’s when he wanna hang up so I call again I started getting mad and said why u hang up then he hang up again then next time I answered she pick up the call then she claim she don’t know why he’s in there

[Static_In_The_Attic]

Some say INCEST IS THE BEST & if your boyfriend is from West Virginia, Kentucky or Alabama sleeping with your cousins happens a lot on those states.

Your boyfriend was in bed with his female ‘cousin’ and her kids?

Shit Happens as they say & her kids are probably his kids too.

Are you overreacting?

If you are from West Virginia, Kentucky or Alabama YES YOU ARE!

[Iron_Man]

Give him a deadline to answer you again if he doesn’t give you the answer and keeps making excuses or hanging up then move on., that’s a very weird situation. You don’t need that in your life. Some people don’t mind dating their cousins, but that’s not right

[exitseven]

I think that the fact that you cannot beleive whether or not she is really his cousin is a red flag.

[Anonymous]

Is she his cousin?

If the kids are in bed with them they probably weren’t having sex, but I’d still be upset and would probably dump him over that

[Asker]

Well ofc I understand that. But I wanted an explanation and still didn’t get. The fact he hang up in my face on FaceTime instead of answering the question shown be he hiding something

[Opinion Owner]

Yes. I would definitely consider dumping him over this.

[Opinion Owner]

Update: just block him

[OneViewpoint]

Are you from Alabama? If so, your boyfriend's behavior is totally normal. Those aren't just his cousin's kids. Some of those are his kids too.

[Abbycado]

How’d you know they were in bed if you were calling? XD

@Agape93

[Asker]

FaceTime I seen him in there

[Abbycado]

Are you from West Virginia?

[Agape93]

Blue ridge mountains...
Shenandoah river...

[LiamS95]

How old are the cousins kids? If they're t hfitubjust young kids I doubt anything sexual happened but if they're older like early teens or older that is just downright sick.

[Asker]

The kids is young but instead of explaining why he even laying in bed he hang up in my face when I yell at him

[LiamS95]

Maybe that was because you yelled at him, I understand you were upset but sometimes it's best to handle things calmly until. you find out what happened and then if it's justified get mad then.

[Asker]

Then he gave his phone to a girl and she texting saying she knows his password to his phone so do her kids. Like how a cousin knows his password but not me? It’s very weird.

[LiamS95]

Yes that is rather weird.

[LiamS95]

I suggest you calmly listen to what he has to say, then make a judgement call and decide if he's telling the truth or lying. If he's not telling the truth be prepared to break up with him and end things with him and block him on your phone and all social media.

[canamlusciouslad73]

No. In fact, if I wasn't satisfied with his explanation, I'd DUMP DAT DUDE !!!

[crazyengineer]

If he was just hanging out; they nothing to worry about

[Asker]

If that’s the case why he didn’t explain to me instead of not answering the question and hang up in my face?

[crazyengineer]

Maybe he got offended. Sometimes boys don’t like when their girl doubt them for something they have not done wrong. Maybe he felt that you doubt him or think he do something wrong and there may have been previous such instances as well. So maybe he’s fed up of explaining and got offended.

[wkhan_87]

Sorry,, we can't say anything without enough context

[Anonymous]

Doing what exactly? Literally just sitting in bed?

[Asker]

That’s what I don’t know. Laying in bed next to her when I called. Either way I ask him what you doing in bed with your cousin and he just hang up in my face instead of explaining himself.

[Opinion Owner]

The hanging up and not explaining is probably more of a red flag than sitting in bed

[fishbone77]

I don't believe this.

[Siajanua2027]

Demand an answer ASAP

[MasterKS]

How is their condition makes the difference.

[melnc]

That's weird 🤔

[melnc]

Update;
Ignore him. And if he gets to you, just say cold (I already know what you were doing when I wasn't looking.) Then keep the pressure on till he falls apart.
Give him cold zero reaction.