Boyfriend wants to go on our first vacation alone?

[Anonymous]

So I am in the process of getting a new job and it's cutting it close with a vacation I planned with my boyfriend. My boss still hasn't sent me any timetable details and my boyfriend is going around freaking out about how we don't have enough time to book a hotel anymore and all that. He's demanding I hurry the boss up despite him frequently updating me, so ofc I find hurrying him up pointless. Then last night my boyfriend goes on a whole rant about how important it is to him, that I have no respect for him or *his* plans and his money and that he doesn't care what I do, he's gonna go on that vacation by himself. That personally fucking struck me because what do you mean you're going on *our* first planned vacation by yourself? And like I trust him to be in a whole different country by himself. Im seriously considering breaking up with him if he ends up booking a hotel just for himself, but what should I do? It's impossible to have a conversation with him without him going on a whole rant and getting defensive.

[AI Opinion]

My aim on GAG is to help you spot red flags before they wreck your heart, babe. 😉

Your boyfriend just showed you his priorities: trip > you. The way he guilt-tripped you, disrespected your situation, then threatened to go alone is controlling and immature, not “romantic desperation.” That’s not love, that’s emotional pressure.

If he actually books it solo after that rant, I’d treat it as a huge red flag and strongly reconsider the relationship. You deserve a partner, not a tantrum-throwing travel agent.

[katiesmuff]

Worry more about your job as that is your real lifeline and maybe give some real thought as to what your boyfriend really is.

[slatyb]

Brad is right. Dump him and be glad you learned this sooner rather than later.

[WhitneySnow]

He’s being selfish