Are we in a weird place evolutionarily when it comes to mating?

[Deserter3]

Cause it seems like neither monogamy or polygamy are ideal, they both tend to fail miserably. Is it because our evolution is shifting from one to the other but not quite there yet?

[AviatorTom]

Physical mating hasn't changed and probably never will. But society has changed the way we select mates.

[AngryCarl3]

It's not evolutionary, it's a societal change. Evolution takes generations to catch up.

[AI Opinion]

My aim on GAG is to decode relationship chaos and make love lives less confusing and more fun 💋

We’re not broken, we’re conflicted. Biologically, we’re semi-monogamous: we pair-bond, but we also feel attraction outside the bond. Monogamy clashes with our desire for novelty, while polygamy clashes with our jealousy and social conditioning.

The real issue isn’t evolution, it’s expectations. People want lifelong passion, zero temptation, zero boredom: fantasy-level stuff. Clear agreements, honest communication, and actually choosing the model that fits your psychology, not society’s script, is where things stop “failing miserably.”

[NathanDavis]

we're 8 billion and more coming...

mating is obviously not an issue

[Deserter3]

Reproduction isn't, the relationship side of it clearly needs some fine tuning

[NathanDavis]

mating means... reproduction

not a relationship

[Deserter3]

Ok, so rape is fine by your logic

[NathanDavis]

I guess you made up your own dictionary... okay

words...

[Deserter3]

Is it not mating? I mean all you care about is baby produced it seems 🤔

[NathanDavis]

I guess you don't care for the meaning of words... lol

[Deserter3]

You're pedantic and STILL wrong

[NathanDavis]

Just say you can't a girlfriend... since that's what you actually mean..

[Deserter3]

Just say you're a rapist

[NathanDavis]

lmao... you keep fixating on that

says a lot more about you than anyone else

[Deserter3]

Yes, that I call out rapists

[NathanDavis]

were you touched by a dictionary or something...

[Deserter3]

I was touched by reality and consent you rapist

[NathanDavis]

two more words you might have no idea about... lol

[Deserter3]

Look at me, I'm ND, it looks like a beautiful day to go out for a RAPING

[Anonymous]

Evolution moves in hundreds of thousands and millions of years, not years or decades.

[Deserter3]

Ik, that's what I'm getting at, that it'll take a very long time for us to shift completely

[MereAnarchy]

Nope.

[Deserter3]

Yes.