Is it normal my boyfriend talks to a close female friend, even when we fight?

[PurpleButterly]

My boyfriend has this girl who he knew for like since they were high school. Is it normal for them to talk to each other? There's one time he message that girl when were fighting on that day. Once in a while, they always update each other.

Yes

No

A total of 12 votes were cast: 4 girls and 8 guys. See detailed results

[ohsheeT]

Yes its normal I have a lot of friends that are girls and I'm single so sometimes we might go out and do something but it's just friendship and we wouldn't take it any further

I'm with a few of these girls I have a pretty good bond with them but I mean it's just friendship

And if I was to get into a relationship right now and if I introduced my friends to the girl I was dating I would look into her eyes and see if it bothered her and I'm sure it would so I would back way off out of respect for the girls that I'm dating

But I'm sure that we would talk not as often

And like with other girls I've dated I talk to them about it they didn't like it and like I said I don't blame them in a way but there are my friends and I just wouldn't walk away anyway but I do understand that I do respect

Just like I know that she would probably have male friends that they are the same way and I would never say anything about that because if I'm going to date her then I trust her

But I hear where you're coming from and it's a hard thing I'm sure to go through

But he has to understand too that if you guys are fighting and if he goes and talks with her I mean that's going to make you feel really bad make you think way too hard so I would hope that he would not go do that but you know that's up to him

I can't really give you any advice because I don't know either one of you but it's something that you should talk to him about for sure if you ever have anything that bothers you you need to communicate

[NathanDavis]

I talk to my friends all the time, yeah... that's completely and absolutely normal

and I know them since middle-schoo, high-school and college years too

however... I never ever message them and tell them about "me fighting with a partner" that's one thing I personally, don't need to do, lol

[Nikki1989]

Friends speak with friends. Nothing unusual there. The people who have a problem with it are the types that should never be in a relationship. Walking red flags.

[EmmaMary]

For fucks sake Grow Up and try acting like an adult for once.

[PurpleButterly]

I guess you're a fcking child yourself? I am an adult and I am trying to understand my boyfriend here.

I am so fine on him talking to his female friends as they know him before me. My main point here is it normal to really share your fights with his female friends.

If you dont have anything good to say or just curse at me. Then fcking grow up.

[HollyK21]

You kinda contradict yourself with this response, Butterfly, because the way you fashioned this post was as if him venting to her about your fights is an extension of you already questioning the normalcy of him regularly talking to this woman. “EVEN WHEN we fight” is what you said.

[EmmaMary]

Thank you for the MHO.

[AI Opinion]

My aim on GAG is to decode messy relationship stuff and make it way clearer for you, babe 💬

Yes, it can be normal for him to talk to a close female friend, even during fights, *if* boundaries are clear and it’s not emotional cheating.

Red flag if: he vents to her instead of you, hides chats, deletes messages, or she knows more about your relationship than you do.

You deserve to be his main emotional person, not the backup.

[AviatorTom]

Perfectly normal for a guy to have a female friend and share experiences with her. Don't you have any male friends?

[Flower7]

No, that sounds like a precarious situation, capable of tipping the wrong way.

[elizamichale1]

There's nothing wrong in tht

[Anonymous]

Nope