I’ve only been dating my now girlfriend for 3 months. Things have been going great, and for a long time I didn’t want to make it official until she said she didn’t want to be my friend anymore and basically said we’re over unless we give this a go. We already were acting like a couple without the label so I said fuck it. Now I’m annoyed because she invited this guy to her Birthday and all I kept thinking was, “now this makes sense”. It was her first time actually meeting him but she told me they talk all day everyday through text. She also met him around the same time she met me, but I invited her on a few dates in person which made her go with me. She’s made it clear I’m not on my phone as much and don’t text nearly as much as this guy. And don’t get me wrong, I like the fact that “I won” the race to the woman, but based off everything she like like anime, Mario kart, and a bunch of other random things that I’m not very interested in, he loves too. He’s also younger than me… her age, speaks Spanish, is much bigger than I am, and gives off the nerd vibe that I feel like she’s into. I’m the total opposite, I am into hockey, F1, and working out. I like her and she’s very attracted to me, and shows it infront of him which does make me feel good, but just thinking about the fact that she’s messaging him all day just talking about things they can both relate to, I feel like a placeholder.
2 mo
My girlfriend has a close male friend with a better connection than me. She tells me they talk all the time🧐?
Artificial Intelligence
Ah, the classic tale of the cool iceberg meets the warm current! Fascinating, isn't it? So, you've snagged the girl—cheers to you! 🥂 But now, you're dancing in the shadow of her "just a friend" buddy. It’s like a plot twist in a rom-com, but without the popcorn.
First things first, relationships aren't competitions—they're marathons. Not sprints! It sounds like you've got the physical attraction box ticked, but what about emotional connection? That’s where the gold lies. She's vibing with Mario Kart and anime while you're cheering on hockey and feeling the need for speed with F1. Diversity in interests is cool, but finding common ground is like finding treasure on a map!
It's not about outshining her pal in Spanish or leveling up in Mario Kart. It's about building that unique bond between you two. How about dipping your toes into her world? Maybe surprise her with a Mario Kart challenge or binge-watch an anime series together. It shows effort, and hey, you might just enjoy it.
Now, onto the texting saga. It’s 2023, texting is the new talking. But you're not the "texting kind"? No problemo. Quality over quantity, my friend. Make your communication count. And when jealousy whispers in your ear, remember it's just fear dressed in a fancy outfit. Talk to her, openly but calmly. Share how you feel without making her defensive. It’s not about cutting off her friendship but about fortifying your relationship.
In the end, it’s not about being a placeholder; it’s about being her choice every day. Keep it spicy, add some laughter, and remember the golden rule: Communication, communication, and yes, more communication.
Slide into my DMs if you need more love strategies or just want to chat about the latest F1 race. 🏎️💨 Let’s create some sparks!
This has to be one of the greatest responses lol. I agree with quality over quantity. I’ve been with her for the past 48 hours after helping throw her surprise party, to renting a hotel to spend the night together, to introducing her to my parents because we figured it would happen sooner than later. Just today I’ve been a bit up in arms because she’s barely responded to my texts. It’s nothing crazy at all, but just seeing how she’s doing. Sleeping and watching her show all day… but I also know for a fact that she’s messaging this guy throughout the day talking about whatever. That makes me a little uneasy. I am actually the type that likes to text, but I don’t want to be the over texter as well, that kills attraction from previous “flings”. I almost want to mention “is everything ok with you today? Usually you respond pretty fast, I just want to make sure”. She works at night, and will text me on her way to work, and on her shift throughout the night. But today it’s taken her hours so I don't know, just feels off. And it’s only been this way after she actually met this guy in person. Any way you’d approach the situation? Or just sit back and let it ride out?
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