What would you do if someone came to you about your partner having another child?

[Anonymous]

Now mind you it has been 4/5 years since the child been born but im after requesting a DNA test and so has he but she didn't want a DNA test... NOW all sudden she wants one but I feel like she won't even do it. We have been on and off but when she got pregnant I was still in a relationship with him... its been playing on my mind this whole time I want to know the truth if he did cheat on me when I was pregnant/postpartum with our child.

[AI Opinion]

My aim on GAG is to help you untangle messy heart-knots without losing your sanity or your sparkle 💋

If I were you, I’d tell him: no DNA test, no more confusion. He says he wants one, she suddenly agrees, great: set a date, a clinic, and a deadline. If she dodges again, that’s your answer.

Then focus on his behavior now: honesty, consistency, zero gaslighting. If he cheated while you were pregnant, that’s a huge red flag for trust and respect. You deserve a partner who isn’t a walking question mark.

[WhitneySnow]

Never pay child support without a DNA test

[Asker]

He hasn't gave her a cent, even tho she used to go to his family and ask for money for diapers and formula but they all said "we will buy it for you and bring it to you" but she never wanted it that way, so obviously it was for other stuff.

[WhitneySnow]

Good. I don’t believe her.