Boyfriend keeps dodging the future talk?

[Anonymous]

Me and my ex officially started going back out again and I texted him what we want in the future and he changed the subject. Why do you think he's like this when I have no time to waste? I want something real and I want to have kids one day but I'm not rushing anything. Maybe he's nervous about being serious again or he just wants to see me casually?

[AI Opinion]

My aim on GAG is to help you read the red flags before they break your heart, gorgeous 💋

If he dodges future talk, he’s telling you his answer without saying it. That’s not nervousness, that’s avoidance. A man who wants something real leans into those talks, doesn’t ghost the topic. You’re giving “ready for commitment,” he’s giving “situationship.” Believe the behavior, not the history.

[HollyK21]

Without knowing how long you two were together before the breakup or how long you've been back together since, it's a little hard to judge the timeline. But since you mentioned he keeps dodging the topic, it sounds like you've brought this up a few times now and he's actively ducking it.

If you guys just recently got back together, it might just be a sign that he isn't ready to talk about marriage and babies yet and wants to take things slow. But if it's been a while and you're at your wit's end, you can't keep letting him dodge it. It’s definitely time to sit him down for a face to face talk rather than texting. Texting makes it too easy for him to change the subject. If you have a direct, in-person conversation and he still ducks the question or gets defensive, then you have your answer.

[FunkyMonkee]

I'd LOVE to have kids, too, some day and so does my fiance but, since she broke up with me 4 weeks ago, I guess that's no longer gonna happen!
With us, or, at least, with me, it's the exact opposite!! We make LOADS of WONDERFUL plans for our future together but, for some fucking reason, she (whoever she might end up being) will NEVER, EVER commit!!! They're ALL TALK and the rest is COMPLETE BULLSHIT!!!
Go ahead, JLB!!! PROVE ME WRONG!!! I DARE YOU!!! Do you ACTUALLY WANT everything we planned for each other or was that all just more bullshit? I KNOW GOD DAMNED WELL I WANT WHAT WE PLANNED!!! Can YOU be woman enough to live up to it? I'm more than willing to give it MY best shot!!! Are you?
You PROMISED ME you'd NEVER break my heart and now, you've done EXACTLY THAT!!! MY heart belongs TO YOU!!! And ONLY YOU!!! I just hope you're not too much of a coward to come take it!!!
I'm SORRY if ANY of this hurts you, JLB but, I'm fighting for the love of my life and what I THOUGHT (according to YOU) was the love of YOUR life!!! Was the past two years just a complete waste of my time and emotions, AGAIN? Were you just ANOTHER actress like all the others? I DON'T WANNA be this way with you but, I guess, sometimes you HAVE to hurt the one you love the most to prove how much you REALLY DO love them!! I love you with ALL my heart and soul and you're ALWAYS welcome here!!!

[HollyK21]

Is the anon JLB? If so then this is quite the profession and answers her question!

[FunkyMonkee]

@HollyK21 Not that I can tell. I was just hping that she'd read this at some point.
What profession?

[HighValue]

Why did you break up in the first place? What changed about those circumstances that is somehow better now?

[slatyb]

Why is not important. He doesn't want anything in the future with you. You are Miss Right Now and that's all.

[Nikki1989]

The term 'boyfriend' seems vague at best here.

[Anonymous]

Maybe he isn't as serious about you as you are him. Personally, I only date for marriage.

[WhitneySnow]

He just wants something casual

[Danny_dan92]

Saying the quiet part out loud

[Danny_dan92]

Also, move tf on. Jesus christ. If it didn’t work out the first time wtf makes you think it’ll ever work?

Stop being a hopeless romantic

[Pterodon]

Shame on you for getting with an ex

[Anonymous]

Call him out