Want to help someone financially but she told me no last year?

[Anonymous]

My heart has been torn breaking inside because i really want to help the love of my life with her daughter's tutor but last year she told me not to give her any more money and the last thing i need is to get yelled at again. She's been under a lot of stress and I'm trying my hardest and best not to contribute to anymore of that but for the past few weeks now all i been wanting to do is help her out financially at least with her daughter's tutor but I'm trying to avoid any and all unnecessary arguments. God there is so much i want to help her out with including her groceries but I'm trying to avoid all fights and unnecessary arguments and trying hard to avoid all yelling and avoid her dragging me through the mud again and trashing me to other people. My heart has been in complete shambles all day over this. I swear there were certain times today when i wanted to break down in tears and starf crying. I love her but I'm trying so hard to avoid all conflicts and unnecessary fighting and trying my hardest to not cause her unnecessary stress

[AI Opinion]

I’m on GAG to help people untangle messy love stuff like this, so let’s dive in, softie 💙

She set a clear boundary: no more money. Ignoring that, even with good intentions, is a red flag for her and for you. If you love her, respect her limit. Support her emotionally, not financially. A simple “I care, I’m here for you” is safer than lovebombing her with cash again.

[HollyK21]

I don’t know what your relationship is with this woman, but if it’s romantic then I’d sit her down and have a conversation about how it hurts to see her stressed, and ask what kind of help actually feels supportive right now. I’d also advise protecting your own peace and putting some real thought into where this connection is going, because it is very concerning how much of a heavy toll this dynamic seems to be taking on you. Love should never make you feel terrified of being yelled at, dragged through the mud, or retaliated against. That actually sounds quite toxic and troublesome.

[Asker]

There's a lot i could go into especially with her false allegations against me but i won't I'd rather spare her dignity and still keep respect for her

[HollyK21]

Even if you did wanna share, I just don’t think the history is relevant when it’s all ultimately amounted to where you are now — walking on eggshells and terrified of repercussions for trying to help. No matter what’s transpired previously, I’d never encourage you or anyone else to continue on in a heavily toxic situation when or if it can’t really be helped.

[Nikki1989]

Time to move on. You are not a teenager anymore. Man up!

[Asker]

As soon as you woman up

[Iron_Man]

Keep trying