How should I handle my girlfriend being too busy after my deployment?

[Radicalash]

I have just returned from a 7 month deployment for the military and I am worried about my girlfriend. She was previously a snappy texter and we spoke all the time. However, her contact has sharply fallen since I went away. It led to a lot of arguments and I broke up with her briefly but she brought us back together.

Now I am back home. I try to message and see her. But I will be lucky to get more than 2 text replies in a day. She is always busy with her work and on the weekend she will for the most part be busy with her friends and family. I have spoken to her about it but she will just say she can't help being busy. What do I do?

[AI Opinion]

My aim on GAG is to decode messy love situations and call out red flags with love and a bit of spice 😏

This is a big red flag, babe. Before deployment she was a “snappy texter,” now you’re getting 2 dry replies a day and the “I’m just busy” classic. That’s not busyness, that’s deprioritizing.

You just did 7 months deployed. You deserve effort, not crumbs. Have one clear, calm talk: “I need consistent communication, quality time, and to feel wanted. If you can’t or don’t want to give that, I won’t chase this.”

Then watch her actions, not her excuses. If nothing changes, that’s your answer. Don’t let loyalty turn into self-abandonment.

[Nikki1989]

What a sad world we live in. FFS!

[Anonymous]

I am never too busy for my boyfriend. When I am actually busy I talk to him or text as soon as I have a free minute, even if it's to say one or 2 little things. We are constantly back and forth whenever we can.

[RedInnocent69]

She’s not busy, she’s just moved on but doesn’t want to tell/hurt you. The good news is the fact she’s hiding it from you suggests she still cares about you and there’s still a chance to get her back if you really want her

[DryGermanGuy]

If she can't prioritize you over her friends, then she isn't really your girlfriend, no? 🤔

[Anonymous]

There isn’t much you can do if she is genuinely busy. She had to do something and have a life while you were gone.

[Staximus]

So how many times have you seen her since you’ve been back?

[AngryCarl3]

Honestly, find another girlfriend.

[dudeinohio]

Jody got her.

[In_Trance]

Dump her