Does the good outweigh the bad in a relationship?

[alexisg10]

When you're in a relationship and you have a ton of great moments together, but you also have a lot of arguments, which outweighs which? Is it worth staying in the relationship for the good moments or no?

[ShootingStar5]

The first part of your question is pretty common sense. It's different for every relationship... think about the entire time span of your relationship... how often have you argued? How much is that compared to the happy times in your relationship? Whichever you have more of is the one that outweighs the other. As for the second part, if you have more good times than bad then yes. If it's the other way around then no. All relationships have their ups and downs, but if you want to be happy in your relationship, then that relationship must be a happy one overall.

[toulouse]

id say 78% bad. 12 % good. but then I've never been in a full fledged relationship << that's probably why. people play games, lifes short, passive aggressive behavior makes it much shorter. every minute of bullsh*t is like 100 minutes in human years.

[Konnour]

It completely depends how much each of them weight.

There are people who are ready to tolerate just about everything - granted they're not lonely and they receive their dose of sex.

People say that arguing is "healthy" and some say that it's even "necessary" but I disagree.

Nobody needs to look for an unnecessary problems, and if you're compatible with each other you won't argue.

If there's a couple who argue either too frequently or too hard or both then it's a clear sign something's very wrong about all this.

[gonyr]

some people say that if you can't argue with a person your with you don't really care about them

fighting all the time is unhealthy, but the occasional argument allows you to vent feelings with each other, and then be done.

when there starts being more bad than good, you have a problem. but sometimes couples just fight, its normal. sometimes you might fight a lot for a period of time, then you'll be completely clear for a while.

sh*t just happens. it doesn't always mean the relationship is bad

[Musical546]

yeah. I think the highs and lows balance out in any good relationship so yeah. and is it worth staying, that depends on the bad. if your partner treats you like crap, its not worth staying, that's for sure.

[alexisg10]

What if he cusses and yells at me over stupid stuff? He just has some anger issues from things that happened to him throughout his childhood..

[Musical546]

that is your call. it doesn't sound good to me- but I wouldn't know- I'm not in your shoes xD

[alexisg10]

Thanks for the advice! :)

[Musical546]

xD. I don't think I helped that much lmao.

[alexisg10]

Any little bit helps hahaha

[Musical546]

haha. I suppose~!

[huck13]

if the arguments cause you to forget about the good memories and linger on the bad ones, then its time to end it

[WeaponZero]

In my experience no.