When a guy says "lets take a break" what does that mean?

[mjmrlyss]

my boyfriend or ex boyfriend says that he needs to clear his mind and if I don't let him he wants to break up. He said lets not talk for two weeks and that he'll call me that second week Sunday. He also said that this still means we are in a relationship and that the rules are to not flirt, kiss, cuddle, or mess around with anybody.. I am so confused as to weather I should give him anther shot when he has broken up with me 4 times and I took him back when he asked me to take him back because he is going to "change." I don't know weather I should wait around again or just break things off completely. Do you think he means when it comes to not seeing other people or is just an excuse?

[Ceekash]

well no one can make that choice for you its totally up to u.. if you truly love him enough to forgive him/ to wait around then wait, if you don't then dont..

he probably feels pressured and can't think straight he just wanna b a lone for a certain time to clear his head and think straight again, in other words he needs some space.

And sometimes taking a break ends up with a break up..

[mjmrlyss]

I love him but I don't know if this is one two many chances for him. I want to be with him if he was like when I first meet him... not controlling and verbally abusive to the point where I believe what he is saying. I am so depressed and I don't know why its so hard to end things with him. when I was in love with my recent ex and I broke up with him. it hurt but wasent hard like this one.

[Ceekash]

well its probably just a break maybe you should ask him why does he need a break? maybe its something that can both solve with out a break..

i know how you feel, because 2 days ago I broke up with the love of my life and every second that passes I just wanna call him and fix it but I know it won't happen because I did that 5 times (he borke up with me 6 times) but I know if he reallyyy love me (and if your boy really love you in this case) he'll come back someday..

got what I mean?

[mjmrlyss]

That is true and yeah its to late for that because he told me either we break up if I can't let him have his space. I'm just worried that he is out there with another girl while I am here waiting for him and being loyal and he just wants an excuse to be wondering around and I'm scared that I'm going to get a call but not like "i miss you I love you" more like "i feel great without you and I don't need you we should break up" that's my fear right now. Or if he doesn't call. I'm sorry that's hard to hear

[Ceekash]

okay well if you think that's this is possible, then maybe in this break you should also try to be more independent you know what mean and think about what would you do if he did break up with and how would you get over it you know.. make your self stronger..

and if he's trust worth and you trust him then no worries otherwise you could still ask him and talk to him about .. like ask him if he's gonna see other girls or whatever Q you wanna knw

i guess that's the best and only way to know the answer :)

[toulouse]

never wait around. most you should offer is the possibility of getting back together in the future-tho not with a guy who broke up 4 times, & is not ordering you yo not do anything with anyone else on HIS break.

never wait around. live your life. if you die tomorrow the last thing ull remember, is waiting around while your boyfriend f***s other people.

[Justdance22]

Let's take a break ... IS ALWAYS A BREAK UP. Don't fool yourself otherwise.

Maybe you'll get back together later, who knows, but don't take this lightly. It's a break up, so act like it's one. If he wants to "take a break", it's gonna be his loss, break off contact with him, get used to being single again and find a new man.

^Sorry if I'm blunt/harsh but that's how it is.

[Prof_Don]

He broke up with you several times?

I would just tell him that it's over.

Honestly...how much has he "changed"?

[Anonymous]

Ok, first of all, makeup breakup games are not healthy for anyone. It's high school drama, and you are too old for that now. Take a break generally means he wants to check out his prospects. If I ever needed time away from a significant other with no communication, I would have a very clear reason for doing so and would be honest about it; but that reason would likely be impending breakup.

[mjmrlyss]

Yeah I feel really bad about myself because he is very verbally abusive with me. I Don't know why its so hard for me to break up with this guys when I have broken up with so many other guys. I dated a guy last year and I loved him so much but I broke up with him. and it hurt but it was way easier than this. I have no clue why? The weird thing is that he's parents are in mexico and they are gone for two weeks right when he wanted to take the "break." I am just so scared of being alone.

[ncsquirll99]

yea.. sorry girl.. break up - make it clear.. He is only saying this because he is looking elsewhere BUT doesn't want you to get anyone else before him because it would still make him really jealous. He is trying to gain control. DOnt fall for it.

[mjmrlyss]

Thats what I think too... I feel so down I don't know how to cope with it.

[AnathemA381]

It means he's too much of a pu**y to say that he's breaking up with you.

[mjmrlyss]

Yeah I told him why don't you just break up with me and get this over with without having to take any "breaks" and he said that its because he is "in love with me and doesn't want to loose me?" I'm so confused in what to do.

[Kain6th]

He wants to have sex with other women without the emotional commitment to you. So yeah just break up. don''t wait for him

[Spy-Girl]

It's over, walk away.

[ColtsFanForever]

it means its a break up