So my boyfriend of 5 years and i made plans of spending the holidays together. Then all of a sudden he ignored my calls when the time came for about 3 days. Then i texted and asked him what happened and he read them and ignored. I then asked if he is leaving me and he replied its over. Then we spoke and he said he wants a break, he has somethings to do and he dosent know how long it will last. Then we ended up spending a day together, we communicated for about 3 days. Then I never heard from again in six weeks. What are your views on this?
Its a difficult one. On one hand, that he's feeling he needs a break indicated you have a problem in your relationship or the ways your personalities mesh together. On the other hand, sometimes when we are younger we feel like we need to get away from something that actually is critically important to us, but we aren't yet experienced enough to recognise that in amougst a fight.
So, a guy saying he needs a break is generally not good. It means your behaviour toward him has left him feeling like he's had enough. That's not to lay the blame entirely on you, his feelings might be unfounded and unfair, though its undoubtedly how he's feeling.
So here's the possiblities I perceive of when a guy says he needs a break:
1) You've had a fight which he feels he's got the short end of the stick during and he's acting out in upset
2) Its been a history of him feeling 'trapped' by your behaviour and he wants to get away, but doesn't feel like he wants to let go what you have together.
3) He's seen another girl he likes, and wants to be in a position where he can try his luck without being a jerk, but still has some feelings for you as well and isn't sure he wants to really move on but still wants to test the water with the other girl (s).
4) He's just got cold feet because he feels the relationship is getting very serious and he doesn't feel ready to commit to anyone (which honestly is a sign he's still looking for something thats not present in what you two share).
Some possibilities for you.
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"Take a break" means I am breaking up with you and I'm not going to give you any explanation, but you'll figure out pretty soon that it's over. Most likely, there is someone else he has been seeing for awhile and he wants to move forward with her, so he is ending your relationship. Too bad it took five years for you to learn that he is not The One.
Oh shit. That means he is not interested in you.
A break? The fuck …. what is this college where you are on spring break?
I feel bad for you because let’s be realistic, do you see mothers asking for a break?
He wants a break meaning he wants out. He wants to go and fucking do whatever he pleases without you holding him back.
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No such thing as a break because once your married you can't take breaks so we either fix the issues while together or break up.
Not a break! Just to break up! Call his bluff and end it for good. Go find a new guy.
Time to move on. After five YEARS ? Seriously? Yes - move on to someone who cares.
Variations of this inquiry appear SO often. - - - - - "After X time he wants a break/wants to pause/ needs to think/ blocked me/ acts weird/ ad nauseam. What do you think? Does he mean this/not mean it/ maybe mean it/ just doesn't care/ etc.
It would seem that just because someone needs to ask the public shows that there is need for the couple themselves to communicate. Many have us- myself included- have just gone through SO much of this ourselves. The drives are the same , The reasons are the same. Maybe the communications means has "advanced" in 40-50-60 years, but the motivations, insecurities, and thoughts of people have not.
Time to move on.
The same bullshit a woman means when she wants one. He intends to whore himself around and once he is done he will show up like everything is normal. Run and find a real man so when he comes back there is nothing to come back too
he found someone else he wanted to doink and either didn't want to do it while in a relationship with you, or she wouldn't do it while he was in a relationship.
So, he "broke up with you, but just in case it doesn't work out he has you to hopefully fall back on.He's seeing someone else. Don't waste your time waiting for him. Go out and find someone else.
He is undecided of what he wants, and he needs time to figure things out for himself and that means he’s got his mind on something else or someone else
It means he wants to fuck other girls while you wait for him to be done and come back to you without consequence
He is about to reconsider the bullshit that he calls his life
He wants (and probably has already) fucked someone else.
It means he wants to shop around
He's exited stage left is my take.
- m
the beginning of the end
He's tired of your shit.
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