How to say sorry after a stupid argument?

[sweey_mamy]

My boyfriend and I argued about something stupid. And we ended up not talking to each other for 5 days, now nobody wants to give in and call the other, bu the argument ended in a way that it is both our faults. What should I do, call him and pretend nothing has happed since we argued about something stupid?

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Thank you for the answers, OK so I will tell you why we argued to get you guys into it. I came back form my trip, and he was going to travel the next day before seeing me,(this was all done with text messages) I told him to cancel, he said he might if I can convince him well, then he started saying he likes me and wants to try new things with me, and he said he thinks I don't like him, but I should be opened to it.

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Then I said I wanted to see him and not my friend that day and that was enough proof that I liked him, I said that if it wasn't enough then he SHOULD travel.

Then he replied a simple: "ok" and we never spoke again... since this OK on Saturday.

But thing is, he didn't travel, he only travelled the next day. he posted it on Facebook

[Anonymous]

I agree with Cryostatic. Call him. The longer you wait, the harder it'll be to go back to normal. Next time, work out the problem and make up before you leave each other. Don't ignore the argument! It'll just come up again later. Better to get the full confrontation over with now.

By the way, I don't know your situation, but I do know that one of the hardest things for a woman to do is let her man know exactly how something he does makes her feel. Whether it's good or bad. Guys can't read our minds and so won't always pick up that we're angry with him right off. And by the time they do, they've probably forgotten what could have possibly upset us... which ends up upsetting us even more. I'm sure most guys would be appreciative if we made ourselves a little bit more transparent.

On the other hand, guys tend to get defensive very easily when you point out something you're not happy about. You've just got to do it in a way that doesn't seem to your guy that he's being attacked. Constant open communication with him (even though you won't always get the same in return) is very helpful when it comes to resolving sudden arguments about trivial things.

[alyssa0313]

Believe me, call him and tell him you want to resolve everything. The longer it festers or if you ignore the situation and move on it'll blow up again later and then you'll really regret it. One of the biggest problems in my relationship is keeping a guard up and not wanting to talk about things that bother me and just letting it go. Causes big rifts that can be hard to get over.

[Anonymous]

Call him and strike up a conversation...then end-up apologizing, cause if you do, he may apologize as well since you said it was both of your faults. You definitely don't want to continue to go more days without talking because he may think y'all broke up, or that since you're not trying to talk to him that you don't want him anymore. Sometimes with relationships, if you really love and want to be with the person, you have to apologize...even if you weren't in the wrong position. In my relationship, I got mad and my boyfriend ended up apologizing to me, and it wasn't even his fault. It doesn't mean that he's "kissing butt" or anything like that.. it's because he was wanting to just put the differences aside and get back to being happy, on both sides. That seems like should happen in this situation as well.

I wish you the best of luck!

[Anonymous]

Saying I'm sorry in a relationship doesn't always mean you are wrong. It means you aren't willing to give up on a relationship that means something to you.

Don't give in entirely. Call him and talk to him about everything. Apologize for the part that you did wrong and leave it at that. It's all you can do. The rest is up to him and if he cares, he will come back and apologize to.

Good Luck!

[Dingismaximus]

If you love your boyfriend you should tell him that you are sorry, sometimes in a relationship if you love the person you are with even when you aren't wrong sometimes you should just say sorry for their sake. After you have done that you should wait a couple of days or a day and perhaps try to tell him when he is calm and cool about the things that he did that had bothered you. By doing it this way you show that you genuinely care about him because if you apologize and say "but" and then tell him his faults right away it takes away from the strength of your apology but if you wait, your apology would be noted properly and it would give him time to think so that even if he doesn't apologize after to you he would have most likely been in that mind set and it would be easier for him to listen to you plead your case about what he did when he sees you are not hostile and also showed him love by putting your relationship and himself over the problem. I hope this will help. :)

[Cryostatic]

No, because something ~did~ happen, and you're both f***ing retards for not talking to each other over it. You're in a relationship, you're supposed to end fights with a resolution, not a week of silence.

Just call him up and say "Are we ~really~ not talking to each other over a stupid little fight"?

I don't care who's fault the fight was, it's BOTH your fault for letting it go for so long.

[nonyabiz2002]

If the relationship is going to work, both of you will set aside your pride and make things work.

If you want it to work, tell him you are sorry that you made a mountain out of a mole hill. If he is mature enough to be in a relationship, he will set aside his pride too and say he's sorry, If he can't do that, keep in mind that he may not be mature enough to be a man and admit his mistakes.

If either of you cannot set aside your prides and apologize, then it is time to move on.

[Blankname1]

Just call and say sorry I learned that saying sorry fixes like 90% of problems when you interact with people.Taking the blame or saying sorry is not a sigh of weakness it's a sigh that you know even if you feel you are 100% right that not saying it can cause a lot more damage verses saying two words.

[RememberReach47]

call him, ask to meet up to talk, then explain what you feel you said/did which was stupid and wrong and apologize for those things, then allow him to do the same. If he doesn't ? Then walk away cause if that's the case no matter what the argument, who's to blame etc you'll always have say sorry, not good.

[Lights]

Be the bigger person call him up/or invite over and apologize first.. (even if you feel he should). I'm sure once you do, he'll do the same.. then you both can move on.

[Anonymous]

Too much pride on both sides.

That's the problem here :\

[Anonymous]

Sounds like your problems are just beginning in this relationship. If this game playing is going on now...what next?

[Person5000]

Yes. He'll appreciate it, and if you wait for a guy to apologize first, sometimes, you'll be waiting forever.

[hoteret]

First admit your mistakes and say what you will do in the future to correct them. One of you needs to take the initiative to apologise.

[arashmenalagha]

sorry I shouldn't have said that, it was stupid.

[Anonymous]

' I'm sorry ' and ' I love you '

[doubleoh]

"I'm sorry."

[Blankname1]

The words that can change the world if only said more often.These words may have the power to prevent wars possibly.