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My boyfriend and I are long-distance for the time being. We've been together 3.5 years, and exchanged gifts last Valentine's day.
He has a lot of stressful things going on in his life at the moment, so I wasn't expecting much. However, he didn't get me anything, or even send a card. He did call me (because my gift had arrived) and he was apologetic, said he felt badly, and that he would try to get something, maybe just a card, to me belatedly. Obviously, it's been 2 weeks, and I haven't gotten anything and he hasn't mentioned it again. I'm a little hurt because I put a lot of effort into our relationship, and, since it's long-distance, I feel it's extra important to let the person know you care. Getting a card isn't expensive or difficult.
I've decided that I need to stop investing so much in this relationship, and have been a little distant since then. I used to email him daily, and call/text pretty often. However, he frequently doesn't respond to my emails, or sends out 2 sentence replies. So I've stopped emailing him, and only talk to him when he calls, which is every other day or so. Every time he does call me, he says he'll call me the next day, which he only does about 50% of the time. I think he'd like it if I called him more often, but I feel that I'm already more invested in the relationship, and putting more effort in than he is. I feel like my life is on hold- he seems to deal with being apart just fine, and has a life that's completely separate from me. When he's back, he always seems to expect that we'll pick up right where we left off, and everything will be the same. We've been separated like this before, and every time it takes a lot out of me. The fact that he is so bad about communicating and letting me know he cares while we're apart makes me feel like less of a priority.
My boyfriend and I are long-distance for the time being. We've been together 3.5 years, and exchanged gifts last Valentine's day.
He has a lot of stressful things going on in his life at the moment, so I wasn't expecting much. However, he didn't get me anything, or even send a card. He did call me (because my gift had arrived) and he was apologetic, said he felt badly, and that he would try to get something, maybe just a card, to me belatedly. Obviously, it's been 2 weeks, and I haven't gotten anything and he hasn't mentioned it again. I'm a little hurt because I put a lot of effort into our relationship, and, since it's long-distance, I feel it's extra important to let the person know you care. Getting a card isn't expensive or difficult.
I've decided that I need to stop investing so much in this relationship, and have been a little distant since then. I used to email him daily, and call/text pretty often. However, he frequently doesn't respond to my emails, or sends out 2 sentence replies. So I've stopped emailing him, and only talk to him when he calls, which is every other day or so. Every time he does call me, he says he'll call me the next day, which he only does about 50% of the time. I think he'd like it if I called him more often, but I feel that I'm already more invested in the relationship, and putting more effort in than he is. I feel like my life is on hold- he seems to deal with being apart just fine, and has a life that's completely separate from me. When he's back, he always seems to expect that we'll pick up right where we left off, and everything will be the same. We've been separated like this before, and every time it takes a lot out of me. The fact that he is so bad about communicating and letting me know he cares while we're apart makes me feel like less of a priority.
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