Why won't anyone date me?

[Anonymous]

By all accounts I am intelligent, well travelled/worldly, and very attractive. But guys NEVER ask me on dates. Oh, they all want to sleep with me, but nobody ever wants to date me :(

[PassionateStud80]

sex is very emotional and intense for me and I care even when I shouldnt.So I get hurt usually.But realize quickly that the girls that only want sex are not worth the time and feelings,ofcourse some girls give me the impression they want more then sex.I don't care about girls that don't care about me.Unfortunately the reality of it is you probably live in another country or state so ):,. I am telling you my story so you can understand how I deal with people of opposite gender that are like this and let you know its not just girls that have to deal with this,maybe you can learn from my experience.I have only even had girls like this and there has been quite a few of them. I know myself its hard to meet good people and maybe if you are hanging out at bars most these guys you are ending up with are dousche bags,manipulative jerks,and their whole goal is too screw as many girls as they can because its "cool" and they can brag about it.Myself I don't know really why guys and girls act like that.I would say maybe they are scared to feel,dont want to get tied down by the wrong person or the persont they are falling for isn't who and like they want it to be--->,have some fantasy about what love is and are chasing after a fairytale instead of living in reality.You are probably a nice person like me and nice people get sh*t on because the people that do these things know they can easily hurt and take advantage of nice people just because they can,they have been hurt by other people and now they just want to hurt someone anyone,Its makes these people feel good about themselves to have other people falling for them(makes them feel special and wanted and needed). It sounds like you have just been really unlucky when it comes to meeting people.You deserve so much better and these guys you have been with have major problem.I don't know if you are but don't blame yourself,its them not you.These guys are probably just sick and broken and will probably never be happy.I would kill to have something special with a girl like you that wants something more then sex.Something that would at least last a while.

[PassionateStud80]

I have the same problem with girls.Sex and that's it.I am really smart also and a really nice,good,honest person,oh yea and fairly handsome\good looking,been told by many girls many times I am a stud.I am nice and that's why I get taken advantage of I think,for some reason they think I am weak,insecure lol yea right, and a fool,not the case . Mostly I just avoid most girls now.Nowadays I would rather have a friendship with a girl then a girl that just wants to screw.But I have learned what the problem is.i always meet sluts,sociopaths,and girls with major head problems and they always come after me.i am a man and super horny so I screw them,but I am not doing this anymore. I really want to love a girl and be loved back equally.Share my life with a girl and her to share her life with me. That is what I want in the long run.Tired of being treated like a piece of sh*t and all the f***in head games.I almost let it f*** my head.Sorry not gonna happen.Just having sex with as many people as I can is not at all what I want and its not really worth it unless you are a sociopath. I have learned the type of girls not to care about and/or to avoid.Most the girls I see are not worth it for me to waste my time pursuing and the ones that are aren't single,not interested or are married.If I was attracted to you and we had stuff in common I would totally date you :) XOXO and do my best to try to treat you right.Ofcourse not a lot experience with the whole relationship thing(this is not by choice),but sex seems to be instinctual for me and I mean I am very good at pleasing a woman and I care about her and her feelings.I think sexually most girls I have been with are very happy,but they are always looking for the next one that makes them feel better.

[adamcdavis]

at least you even get attention. Try being a good looking guy who is very intelligent and well mannered and yet always has to constantly see ugly douchey guys, stealing chicks in front of me on a daily basis. Sry not to sound mean but being good looking and intelligent has many more perks for women than it does for men.

[moaterboat]

You're probably not very approachable for some reason. The only guys that are willing to talk to you are the ones that aren't afraid to be shot down because they will be trying to hook up with someone else tomorrow.

[shumailkazimi]

they might have thought that this girl is good looking ,intelligent etc etc so she will be surely having a boyfriend or they must have thought that your high in maintenance hence they opted for free shots

[rogaortega]

Because people who ask pretty girls out just want to party. You should try asking someone out

[guy532]

Maybe you just give it up too easily

[Asker]

My last (pretty much only) boyfriend was a fling that turned into more, so I don;t think that is as big a deal as some people say?

There is a guy at the moment and I ahve refused him sex twice now, kept it tame, but still no date.

[guy532]

I don't like that I got thumbed down...99% of the time I don't care, but I didn't deserve it. Anyway to the point. Many guys agree (at least all of my friends) that there are two types of women, the beautiful ones that you want to protect and take care of (like her link and the hot ones that you just want to sleep with (like penny from the big bang theory). You probably fit the second category. Hoping a date from a guy that has asked to just have sex

[guy532]

with is just further evidence that you are more "slutty" (sorry can't think of a better word) than you think you are. A good girl would want nothing to do with a guy that flatly asked to just have sex.

[Asker]

Yeah, I don't think it deserved a thumbs down either! What do I do about being a "Penny"?!

[Asker]

Na, he didn't ask straight out. He stayed over, I am sure he probably had "bad" intentions, we kissed, I didn;t let him go further. He didn;t ask for it but he tried to go a bit further and I said no.

[guy532]

I swear am not trying to be an a**hole by the way. It's just that if a girl is very outgoing she will always just seem kind of slutty (even if she's not). Try to be a little bit more closed off and a little bit shy and that will make you seem more innocent.

[guy532]

why did you let him stay over in the first place. That's another thing you're doing wrong, if a girl I know just lets guys sleep over her house the first thing I think of is they're going to have sex, I can't help it it's just guy's logic.

[Asker]

1st time: A few of us were at my house after a party, one by one they went home & we stayed up talking for hours before we crashed. I didn't just invite himback. 2nd time - walked me home after a party, his mates live round the corner and originall why he was (apparently) going to stay with them, but we chatted for ages & played at a nearby park and it just got late & cold so we went inside to chat more & again he ended up stayin