Why wait to throw things in my face?

[Anonymous]

My new boyfriend has a habit of keeping things in until we have a disagreement and then throws all the things he can think that I may have done wrong or annoyed him over the last few weeks, why not mention it at the time, why hold it all in for future ammunition?

[7gnat]

It is somewhat common for men to not express their feelings. When some guys get pissed they blow up all at once and explode about all the small and or big things at once. Guys are not always so good at communicating. Also girls are not so good at picking up or learning the little things that tick off a guy, so often it will buid up and once he explodes the female is so surprised by all the things he is complaining about. Try to sit him down and talk in a calm manner and ask him alllll the things that he dislikes and how he can communicate those "annoying" things to you better so you understaind.

[kairon156]

I hate people that do this. sometimes I come off as grumpy but it's only because I speak my mind when things go wrong. I would rather be a bit grumpy than once every month or two blow up and scream at everyone.

[nee_chad322]

Your boyfriend is one to hold a grudge. When time comes, your relationship will be solely based on emotional blackmail. He may feel that he was sacrifing things for you for holding those things back or thought that he is understanding when he does that but it's not healthy.

when things happen in your relationship, both of you should talk about it. Throwing everything in your face when he feels he needs it is sick.

[Asker]

Oh yes he seems to been holding quite a lot back and I have had a barrage of abuse. I am one to say it as it is at the time and not three weeks later, means you can move on. I think I was quite shocked by what he came out with. How could he act all loving whilst holding that all in. You saying emotional blackmail I can see somethings he says is heading towards that, like oh you make me so happy, I can't live without you, offering to take me out and make up but on his terms.

[nee_chad322]

Yeah... There will be times that you will feel obligated to do so. The feeling sucks, makes you feel guilty when you know that the best thing is to break up

[jusmae]

its violence... but some guy's can't control his emotion and so he do hurt you physically because he's jealous ...i think You should do:

You have to explain and be open minded him