Long distance relationship--who pays for travel costs?

[imimim]

So my boyfriend moved across the country about two months ago for work. I'm going to go visit him next weekend, and probably sometime late December as well. My question is, who should pay for the flights? I guess we should split the costs, but as I've already bought my ticket I feel a little weird asking him to pay me back for part of it. Or maybe he should just pay for the next one. Part of me thinks that since it was his choice to move, he should pay for the transportation needed haha. But I suppose that's unreasonable and I'm not that mean. We both have full time jobs but we both just graduated college so they don't pay a whole lot. Similar incomes though. So thoughts?

[snowboarder720]

I'd say pay for this ticket (which you've already have), and then say "next time, it's your turn to pay for my ticket". Yeah, it'll seem like your being rude at first, I understand how this goes. If you bring it up earlier, it'll give him time to think about it and come up with a solution when it's time to visit again.

[imimim]

Yeah this makes sense too!

[DocClassic]

a less rude/direct way to say it might be "idk if I can afford ANOTHER plane ticket", but whatever works for you

[kheserthorpe]

I'd probably just pay for my flight, and he for his - as a starting point.

You -anticipate- you will see him more. Have you discussed that? If not, I would discuss it with him next weekend. Say 'I can come see you more often if that works out, but IF that's what we're gonna do, we'd need to split flight costs'.

[imimim]

Yeah, we'll need to talk about it. Thanks!

[CrystalMinds]

I'd say you try to fly over equally and you pay your own flights. I would be a bit embarrassed if I had to ask a long distance boyfriend to pay me back half of my tickets..

[imimim]

This makes sense, but I can get time off work a little more easily than him, so I'd probably be the one flying more often.

[CrystalMinds]

Then talk to him about it. Not about the fact that you think he needs to pay for some of your tickets, because it's still your choice to go. My sister lives in another country as well. She pays her tickets when she comes over and I pay mine when I come over (well, my parents pay, I'm still a student so I'm poor, lol)

[imimim]

Yes, I will for sure. Thanks!

[CrystalMinds]

You're welcome. I'm sure he'll understand ;)

[PoeticNinja]

You're right. He moved, he should pay part of it. - Of course, You're the one going to see him.

For now, put in half. - He should pay for the next one. Take turns.

[imimim]

Yeah, taking turns seems like a good plan. Just wondered what other people may have done. Thanks!

[PoeticNinja]

Pay when he comes to you, he pay when you come to him. - Or at least, that's what I'd do. So, then they could too have money to spend when they are here.

[imimim]

yeah that could work!

[kdizzleforizzle91]

I think that depending on the type of transportation, a long distance couple should either alternate paying (plane tickets) or split the cost (cost of gas for driving).