How do I love my boyfriend less?

[misspl123]

yea it may sound funny.. but its the way I feel. Well my boyfriend and I have been together for a year we broke up twice and it was because of I felt he wasn't communicating with me. second time we got back together(which is this time) is really different my feelings has escalated so I high all I do every day is thinking of him and only him. It feels as if he is controlling me but yet he isn't he is the nicest guy and very loving. Not only is it bring me down from who I am but I am actually very controlling now. I get mad at night when he has to go to work because he doesn't talk to me as much as I want him too... and it isn't his fault. we been together for 1 year there isn't really anything to talk about. we talk on the phone every night because we don't get to see each other as much as we want to. I tried telling him to not call me on the nights he work and just call me on the days he is off , he didn't want to he just said fine you don't have to call me but just know that I will still call you every night. And last night I asked him for a break, it was difficult to say it though every time I thought about the reason why, my heart felt broken when he hasn't even done anything. I asked him and he said NO that's he loves me to much to do that and that a break is like a break up for him and he doesn't want to break up with me anymore.

Basically I'm not myself and I need help to come back to who I am. and at the same time I don't want to be this controlling, nagging, horrible girlfriend ..its not me. I love him so much:(

[Anonymous]

Just tell him you need space not breaking up. This is unhealthy rel. I mean I was like this before with one of my exes. Well, I think this is because you spend too much time with your boyfriend together and not enough time with anyone else. Once in a while, hang out in a group you know with another couple or something. Then, next time you can have quality time together with your bf. You have to remember that he has his own life and you have your own life. He's just part of your life, so you cannot expect him to be there for you 24/7. Tell him that you love him but you guys need some space unless this rel. is not going to work out. Tell him how you want this rel. to work out and better you two. You want this because you love him.

[kenzi5001]

tell him ur feelings tell him how you feel about things if he knew how you felt mabey he may understand... you don't want to break up but I think you might need a friends advise instead of mine... guys can do that just don't let him :)