I asked another question about ASPD yesterday, but I decided to add proper details today. I met a guy in summer group and 3 weeks later he told me he liked me and we started getting involved. About a month later, he told me he realized he was in love with me. He has told me once that he had ASPD. He has said really sweet things but they seemed quite cliche and too romantic for someone who recently met me, for example, he's said that he loved me with all his heart and so much that it hurt, that he knew I was the one, if he ever hurt me it would hurt him more, he felt unconditional love for me, he'd always be in love with me and his heart would always be mine, he would trade everything the world has to offer for my love. He said that although these things sounded full on, they were true.
But his actions didn't always match his words, e.g., once he said that he wanted to buy me presents out of the kindness of his heart because he loved me. He told me about presents he had bought for me but he never gave me any of them, even when I gave him a present. I've been reading about ASPD and sociopathy in romantic relationships, and articles say that people with these disorders can quickly move on to a new romantic interests. This applies because about a week before he told me he liked me, he liked another girl from the summer group and even said that he missed her so much it hurt a few days before telling me he liked me. They were briefly together but a few days later there were problems between them, so he put her in his 'past', and said that he had fallen for me, And a week before liking this girl, he had a crush on another girl from the summer group.
After we had resolved an argument but we weren't talking as much, a couple of weeks later he told me about plans with his 'gf' then a few hours later called me to say he loved me, he couldn't function properly in life without me and that he cancelled everything with the girl. He also said he cried about me for 4 hours the day before. He's had a violent past as well with gangs and has a temper. Although he said he was a changed man because he found God and had counselling, I know he's still had strong tempers and has been involved in some violence, but said he tried to escape from it but he couldn't and had no other choice. He's also said he would never hurt me but when I told him something that he didn't like, he said he got in a burst of rage (this was over text though). Certain things I've read about the disorders ring a bell but I'm not completely sure. Can people with ASPD genuinely love another person? I'm sorry it's so long!
But his actions didn't always match his words, e.g., once he said that he wanted to buy me presents out of the kindness of his heart because he loved me. He told me about presents he had bought for me but he never gave me any of them, even when I gave him a present. I've been reading about ASPD and sociopathy in romantic relationships, and articles say that people with these disorders can quickly move on to a new romantic interests. This applies because about a week before he told me he liked me, he liked another girl from the summer group and even said that he missed her so much it hurt a few days before telling me he liked me. They were briefly together but a few days later there were problems between them, so he put her in his 'past', and said that he had fallen for me, And a week before liking this girl, he had a crush on another girl from the summer group.
After we had resolved an argument but we weren't talking as much, a couple of weeks later he told me about plans with his 'gf' then a few hours later called me to say he loved me, he couldn't function properly in life without me and that he cancelled everything with the girl. He also said he cried about me for 4 hours the day before. He's had a violent past as well with gangs and has a temper. Although he said he was a changed man because he found God and had counselling, I know he's still had strong tempers and has been involved in some violence, but said he tried to escape from it but he couldn't and had no other choice. He's also said he would never hurt me but when I told him something that he didn't like, he said he got in a burst of rage (this was over text though). Certain things I've read about the disorders ring a bell but I'm not completely sure. Can people with ASPD genuinely love another person? I'm sorry it's so long!
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