so you angry that he proposed to a girl that he is know longer with, but is with you and hasn't proposed.
-Perhaps he is just trying to make a smarter decision
-Perhaps he doesn't want to propose only to have to realize that he has to go through the difficult process of backing out if it doesn't work
Frankly he is being responsible. I think the issue here has more to do with insecurity you have. Don't compare yourself or your relationship with one that didn't work. Would you prefer he propose to you after three months only to have it not work out? Because if you want him to treat you the same as his ex that is what would happen. Just enjoy that he loves you. And be patient and wait for him to make the decision to really propose when it is something that will last and be more than just words said but true love felt
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I think that you have no grounds to be hurt at all. The fact that you're offended at all shows that probably not ready to be married anyway. Obviously, the guy regretted asking a woman to marry him so soon and doesn't want to make the same mistake. I really can't believe that you could be that jealous. Wow.
Perhaps he was just being extra cautious since the first engagement fell through? I don't think it's anything to take personally against you. To me it just sounds like he has gotten a little bit more mature from some life experience.
When we are young, we do immature things. And he admits that he never loved her. He has also said you will get a nicer ring. Maybe he is taking time to afford something really nice for you?
Don't be upset about the timing. If the pairing is right, it's worth it to wait for the proposal. Plus it will be more special to him and you both if you wait until he is ready.
3 months is a very short time to be with someone. It would definitely be asking a l ot for him to propose to you at that point in time. I wouldn't be offended.
He probably realized after the fact that three months of dating was way too soon for him to ask for that kind of commitment. He might also be afraid that if he proposes to you, things will start going sour. You say that after he proposed last time, they went around telling everyone they were engaged, then broke up? That probably stings, and he might feel a little embarrassed or sensitive about the whole situation. I wouldn't blame him for wanting to take things more slowly with someone you care about more - when the stakes are high, you don't want to screw up!
Why do you want to get engaged so quickly and are upset that it hasn't happened?
THey broke up! It wasn't a real engagement!
I swear so many girls are just looking for a engagement and wedding and don't care what guy it comes from! Marriage is a HUGE DECISION! Don't make that lightly!
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No offence, but you're being silly! You are right when you say that after only five months, it's too soon. It definitely was too soon after three months as well. Your boyfriend has since recognised this and realized that he never even loved her (although I'm sure he did think so at the time). Maybe he has simply learned from his mistake and wants to take time. It's not like your relationship will automatically be more meaningful or somehow validated if he proposes, just like the fact that he proposed to his ex makes their relationship somehow more meaningful. I mean...they broke up!
Just try to enjoy your time with him and don't over-analyse everything.it is not a contest! it is extremely immature of you to be hurt. in all honesty I think you are not ready for marriage at all if that's how you are thinking.
he proposed to her blindly and foolishly. he was not ready. with you he is taking his time because he actually cares and takes it seriously. marriages that are spontaneous and short, when the people don't know each other well, are much more likely to fail.He's scared of the same thing happening so he's waiting longer to see. Besides months is a super short span of time to know if you want to marry someone.
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