Proposed to his ex girlfriend sooner then he will propose to me?

Question

so my boyfriend had this girlfriend for 8 months and after 3 months he proposed to her but it wasn't anything fancy he didn't have a ring and they were just laying in bed and just asked will you marry me then they told everyone they were engaged.  then theybeen broken up for a year in a half before me and him started going out.  me and him been going out for 5 months and he told me that he never loved his ex just thought he did and that he loves me and that I am his first love and on Valentine's he gave me a promise ring that he will marry me one day.  the promise ring looks like an engagement ring but he wants to get me a nicer ring when he officially proposes.  but I am a little hurt  Because he propose to a girl he said he never love after 3 months and he says he loves me and never loved her but he won't propose to me.  and honestly I wounldnt care  Because we been only together for 5 months so that is too soon to get engaged.  but the fact is he propose to his ex 3 months after they started going out and he says he loves me more but won't do it tilll later.  but how I look at it if he loved me more wouldn't you propose to me a lot sooner then you did to the girlfriend before.

madhatters4 · Accepted Answer

so you angry that he proposed to a girl that he is know longer with, but is with you and hasn't proposed.

-Perhaps he is just trying to make a smarter decision

-Perhaps he doesn't want to propose only to have to realize that he has to go through the difficult process of backing out if it doesn't work

Frankly he is being responsible. I think the issue here has more to do with insecurity you have. Don't compare yourself or your relationship with one that didn't work. Would you prefer he propose to you after three months only to have it not work out? Because if you want him to treat you the same as his ex that is what would happen. Just enjoy that he loves you. And be patient and wait for him to make the decision to really propose when it is something that will last and be more than just words said but true love felt

PhilaPenn · Accepted Answer

I think that you have no grounds to be hurt at all. The fact that you're offended at all shows that probably not ready to be married anyway. Obviously, the guy regretted asking a woman to marry him so soon and doesn't want to make the same mistake. I really can't believe that you could be that jealous. Wow.

Darkfairie17 · Accepted Answer

Perhaps he was just being extra cautious since the first engagement fell through? I don't think it's anything to take personally against you. To me it just sounds like he has gotten a little bit more mature from some life experience.

When we are young, we do immature things. And he admits that he never loved her. He has also said you will get a nicer ring. Maybe he is taking time to afford something really nice for you?

Don't be upset about the timing. If the pairing is right, it's worth it to wait for the proposal. Plus it will be more special to him and you both if you wait until he is ready.

3 months is a very short time to be with someone. It would definitely be asking a l ot for him to propose to you at that point in time. I wouldn't be offended.

landingsight · Accepted Answer

He probably realized after the fact that three months of dating was way too soon for him to ask for that kind of commitment. He might also be afraid that if he proposes to you, things will start going sour. You say that after he proposed last time, they went around telling everyone they were engaged, then broke up? That probably stings, and he might feel a little embarrassed or sensitive about the whole situation. I wouldn't blame him for wanting to take things more slowly with someone you care about more - when the stakes are high, you don't want to screw up!

harveykinkle · Accepted Answer

Why do you want to get engaged so quickly and are upset that it hasn't happened?

THey broke up! It wasn't a real engagement!

I swear so many girls are just looking for a engagement and wedding and don't care what guy it comes from! Marriage is a HUGE DECISION! Don't make that lightly!

Anonymous · Answer

No offence, but you're being silly! You are right when you say that after only five months, it's too soon. It definitely was too soon after three months as well. Your boyfriend has since recognised this and realized that he never even loved her (although I'm sure he did think so at the time). Maybe he has simply learned from his mistake and wants to take time. It's not like your relationship will automatically be more meaningful or somehow validated if he proposes, just like the fact that he proposed to his ex makes their relationship somehow more meaningful. I mean...they broke up!

Just try to enjoy your time with him and don't over-analyse everything.

Anonymous · Answer

it is not a contest! it is extremely immature of you to be hurt. in all honesty I think you are not ready for marriage at all if that's how you are thinking.

he proposed to her blindly and foolishly. he was not ready. with you he is taking his time because he actually cares and takes it seriously. marriages that are spontaneous and short, when the people don't know each other well, are much more likely to fail.

temptationfalls · Answer

He's scared of the same thing happening so he's waiting longer to see. Besides months is a super short span of time to know if you want to marry someone.

Proposed to his ex girlfriend sooner then he will propose to me?

Most Helpful Opinions

Most Helpful Opinions

What Girls & Guys Said

He proposed to me. what should I do?

Proposed to his ex girlfriend sooner then he will propose to me?

Most Helpful Opinions

Most Helpful Opinions

What Girls & Guys Said

He proposed to me. what should I do?

We're glad to see you liked this post.