Guys why do you really use the I don't deserve you break up?

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So my boyfriend broke up with me last night. It started with a text where he said he's not sure we should be together, and it's complicated. I then told him that he needed to call or talk to me in person about this, because it's not OK to text that.

We talked for about 45 minutes. He kept saying how I'm the best person he's ever known. I'm the sweetest and cutest person he's ever known, etc, and that he feels he's been such a jerk to me and doesn't deserve me. I calmly told him that that was a cop out answer, and one that' only used when you are trying not to hurt feelings, and I feel I deserve the actual reason. But he kept going back to that. He is going through a difficult time. He's unemployed and doesn't know what he wants to be or do with his life. He also said that he loves me (more than one time), and that he doesn't want me out of his life. He wants to still be friends, and that he's not going anywhere. He mentioned that he's not leaving because he is seeing or wants to see someone else. And that he really needs to be by himself. Finally I asked him again to let me know the real reason, and the only thing that he mentioned was that we're two very different people, and he's older.

I'm really confused as to why if I'm so great that he's leaving if that really is his excuse (which trust me I don't believe). But if it's not his excuse, why he wouldn't give me the real one. Why would he keep telling me that he loved me, and didn't want me out of his life? Have any of you actually broken up with someone because you felt you didn't deserve them?
Guys why do you really use the I don't deserve you break up?
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