He said I love you after 6 weeks !

[Anonymous]

We met and started dating 6 weeks ago... is this too soon? Should I be worried that he's gonna be clingy? I feel the "in love" but definitely not love yet.

[Anonymous]

Before, I thought of love as something that you would notice after staying with the person for a long time. I used time as a determinant of love. But recently, I found out that true love has nothing to do with time. You could love someone the moment you see him (love at first sight), or a minute you talk to him. If he loves you within the short span of being together, he must already be ready to accept the whole you for who you are as time goes by. :))

If you accept him, he may possibly be clingy. :) But I think, if you think you don't love him that much, give it a little bit more time before being together. :) So that when you are already together, and you love him, then being clingy wouldn't be a problem and you will enjoy every moment he touches you or every moment together, you'd feel romance--something that most people of today do not really experience..

Pardon for the long and wordy answer! God bless you :)

[why-makoto-kun]

Are you exclusive? 6 weeks isn't too ridiculous. However, 1-2 weeks of merely knowing each other would be IMO.

If you're worried about him getting clingy, pay attention to his behavior. Do you see warning signs?

Or, do you have a past with clingy guys and just worry about it?

[tdsianac]

He probably does indeed love you. There's no formula for when two people in a relationship fall in love with one another. His loving you would be irrelevant to a 'clingy' issue. He could love you and be the best love you'll ever meet and be busy with his own life. Switch the word clingy with the words 'cares about me and wants to be with me'. Instead of analyzing a time element, ask yourself if you enjoy being with him. That's all you really need to know. There's a difference between infatuation and love, but love seems to grow with shared experiences.

[stephen1]

Sounds like he may be really imature emotionally.

He might not know what real love is.

You may be his first.

Just tell him that you two need to talk.

Gauge his responds by the way he reacts to you. Really make him listen to you. You don't have to break it off.

He may just be smart enough and know exactly what he wants but doesn't understand how to act in a social situation.

But to me he sounds like he is just a kid that doesn't understand how to be mature yet.

That doesn't mean that he is a bad person.

[Anonymous]

It should be a concern... after only 6 weeks, he's either going to be the clingy sort, or else you're his first girlfriend or something.

But it's not a reason to dump the guy, just in case he is a clinger. Have a quiet word with him, perhaps, and let him know that regular normal healthy dating adults don't profess love after 6 weeks... and he should be aware that that sends "danger" signals.

A quiet word now, might curtail such flag-raising behavior in the future.

[Dhruva]

Oh no! Call the cops or national security!. He might want to marry you next. you better run and date an a**hole who won't give a sh*t about you.

[Marinevet84]

I can’t upvote this enough times.

[SwissCheeze]

You should count yourself lucky most girls/women wait years to hear I love you from a guy., But the poor bastard probably doesn't stand a chance now because you'll dump him for some jerk, who will never say I love u.

[Anonymous]

6 weeks is a little soon to be professing your love. Maybe he doesn't really know what love is & is getting those feelings confused with how he feels. Either way it's not a bad thing unless he actually does get clingy & possessive.