I feel very self conscious and insecure around my boyfriend...?

[Anonymous]

Thanks for clicking on my question :) anyway, I love my boyfriend to death! He's awesome, super sweet, protective, loving, handsome, and loyal. I am not trying to sound conceited but I am a very pretty girl. He calls me beautiful but I don't always believe it.. For some reason though, when I'm around him only, I feel very low and insecure. I feel like I'm full of flaws. He is so sweet and I don't know what he's thinking when he looks at my face all the time. Tonight we were being affectionate. We were kissing. But I felt very insecure and ugly...I realize that true beauty comes from the inside but I also want to feel beautiful on the outside even around my boyfriend. I guess I'm trying to ask do guys tend to care about those kind of stuff? All I feel is judged, which I shouldn't. I should be comfortable around him. Can I please have some advice on this and how to not put myself down all the time? Thank you.

[bladesdragon3]

I can never comprehend why girls feel that they are ugly. Lets face it, guys are fairly shallow. If he thought you were ugly, he wouldn’t be with you in the first place. Also as we get to like people, humans tend to find people they like to be more attractive. When you are with your boyfriend try to forget about what you look like. It probably doesn’t matter. We don’t call our girls beautiful because they are. We call them beautiful because we think they are, and we want them to feel special.

Consider this conundrum. If a random person calls our girl ugly, we want to rip them apart. Consider the guys feelings when you call yourself ugly. We can't rip you apart because we would destroy what we love. Then we simply decide that WE failed to make our lady feel special.

[trouty42]

You're judging yourself, because I guarantee he's not judging you. Here it is and it's really this simple. If he's as awesome as you say he is, he could probably have his choice of many different girls. He chose you. He's with you. Actions speak louder than words, there's a reason that's a cliche because it's true. So stop driving yourself crazy and enjoy your time with him.

[dunndunndunn]

You need to do some self care for your soul, girl! KNOW that you are beautiful, but not because of your appearance. Don't you have some amazing girlfriends who can take you out and show you the light? GFs are meant for that (and don't forget to return the favour).

[yesmylove]

Okay you just said this "I am not trying to sound conceited but I am a very pretty girl", how is it that you feel ugly, and don't believe him?

[Anonymous]

He's with you for a reason, sex,love whatever he's with you.