i think he's perfection and way out of my league, like my other boyfriends and it shocks me that he likes me. People will always treat my past boyfriends better than me. How can I stop feeling this way
How can I stop being so insecure around my boyfriend?
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Firstly, NO ONE is perfect. Get that idea out of your head right now. He has some flaw (s). You just haven’t figured out what those flaws are. Eventually as you spend more time with him, you will.
Additionally, he clearly likes you. So take a deep breath, and just be yourself. Things will work out the way they’re meant to. Enjoy spending time together. Be yourself. If he’s the one, he’ll love you for who you are. If not, then at least you know. But you HAVE to be yourself. No relationship will work long term if you aren’t just yourself. The whole goal of dating is to get to know who someone truly is.
He likes me but I feel like I’m not good enough for him. He’s cool and social, while I’m quiet, shy and insecure. I try my best to be myself and give him all the love I can
That’s amazing! Being quiet and shy isn’t a bad thing. People are sometimes attracted to opposites. All you can do is set the goal to slowly be more social. Try to ask questions, have good conversations with him. I know it’s hard. And the goal isn’t to change yourself (don’t change yourself). But it gives you an opportunity to experience being just slightly more social. You got this!!
Thank you, but I can't even eat outside with him because i'm worried the waitor would treat him better because he's conventionally attractive than me. It happens on all my dates if the male i'm on a date with is more attractive. I don't want him to see that and have the upper hand then lose interest because I also think he could do better than some insecure chick
Well clearly you are bringing things to the relationship too. You said you try to give him all the love you can. You clearly care very deeply which is a great quality. You care about doing the right thing and being the best you can. Everyone has their flaws.
As for waiters. That’s just something you’re gonna have to get over. If someone treats someone else better than you because they’re more attractive, that isn’t a reflection on you, but a reflection on them. Shows what kinda person they are.
Here is the last thing you have to remember. Smart and reasonable guys. Care a LOT more about personality than appearance and looks. Personality is what lasts. Not appearance. Everyone ages, and even super models can’t look great forever. Whereas an amazing personality, lasts forever.
You’ll overcome your fear eventually. Just do your best to remember that he sees something in you. And if he chooses to focus on the things you’re insecure about, he isn’t a good guy.
Everything you’ve said tho, seems like it’s a very healthy and balanced relationship tho. Sounds like you both bring different elements to the relationship which is great. Just do your best to focus on the positives and not dwell on the potential things that could go wrong. The positives are real, your insecurities at this point are not tangible. Not trying to dismiss your feelings. But the fear is all in your head at this point. The positives aren’t, the positives are real.
Thank you, yes i'll try my best. I'm so insecure I can't even send him some selfies and facetime him :/ i do love him a lot and he also contributes a lot to the relationship. Like he always buys food and drives me to his and back
and he's also younger than me by two years and handsome so he could leave aanytime
Ok well set the goal to send him a selfie or FaceTime him sometime today. Take baby steps. Tell him you were thinking about him and wanted to say hi or something like that.
i always feel ugly though and i think he's losing interest because im too insecure