Is 5 months a long time to wait to see each other in an LDR?

[Anonymous]

So we've been long distance before but only for about 1-2 months. But people are saying that 5 months is too long and it won't work out. We're seeing each other in May. And we talk everyday and things seems to be going great.

Why are people so rude about this?

[MrOracle]

They aren't rude, they're experienced, and they're trying to warn you.

After about 90 days, most people aren't able to muster the enthusiasm and continue to make the effort to keep the connection alive. They tend to fade out a bit, so that you can feel a distance between you, and/or because they get more and more lonely (and being in a relationship only makes that WORSE if you can't be together, because it stirs up your emotions), it's very common for one (or both) people to cheat. They'll "become friends" with someone "just to talk", and before long, they are going at it because they are so desperate for both emotional and physical satisfaction.

Something like 99% of LDRs that last more than 90 days fail due to issues directly related to the distance/time apart. That's a harsh lesson to learn, but most people seem to have to learn it the hard way.

Are there a tiny few who survive? Sure, but people win the lotto too; that doesn't mean the odds of you winning are good, or even fair.

[Phoenix98]

I am experienced also and I can say that while 5 months is a long time its worth it when you do finally get to see him or her. I didn't see one girl for close to 4 years the first 3 and a half were because she moved away I got together with her after those 3 and a half years and didn't see her for another almost half year. We didn't even break up because of the distance it was due to school. I will agree they are hard but also a good experience struggle brings out a persons true nature.

[Phoenix98]

I went over 4 years without seeing a girl that I had a crush on and then when I got together with her I didn't see her for another 5 months. Don't let other people get to you if there is a will there is a way you and your boyfriend decide whether or not it works or fails not them. Trust me it will be hard but stay strong and you will pull through.

[Randa4]

I think that if you guys think its OK then its OK. Honestly for me 5 months is nothing I don't get what people are talking about