Is telling someone you don't need them bad?

[Luv2BRealExotic13]

Is telling someone while in some sort of relationship, "you don't need them" seen as bad? How is love and companionship even on a top priorities/needs list?

[Anonymous]

It sounds like a bit insult and definitely doesn't come off the right way when ANYONE uses it. I assume you're saying it in the sense of "I'm not dependent on you to live my life"? If so, then there are either better ways to say it, or something that doesn't even need to be said at all. I'm not sure of any reasons why you would need to tell another person this, so I'm just going to go ahead and say that there's no reason to say it to someone.

It just sounds very much like you don't care at all about them and as I said, there's no reason to tell a person you care about that you don't depend on them 100% for everything in your life. It's just one of those things you need to realize for yourself, because it's for you and not for them to know.

[Luv2BRealExotic13]

Me and my mom were watching Best Man Holiday and two of the characters were exchanging goodbyes and the boyfriend tells her he felt like she acts as if she doesn't need her and she replied that she doesn't. I saw nothing wrong with that because of the type of woman she is that she wasn't dependent on him like you said. My mom says that's harsh but she laughed saying me and that character were very alike.

[martyfellow]

Saying that will be seen as a total rejection and a put down. It says you don't care about them at all.

I wouldn't say that to anyone unless you WANT to hurt their feelings. If you just aren't interested in them, wouldn't you say something like you are not ready for a relationship, instead?

That way you're not rejecting them personally.

[pr3ttybr0wn]

its not a nice thing to say

you might have to remind him if he starts acting stupid though

[Agrojag]

That's very bad. What's the point of a relationship if you don't need someone? If my girl said that, I'd be devastated.

[Anonymous]

Yes, it's bad. Most people, men and women, need to feel needed. Telling your partner you don't need them could be pretty hurtful. For me it would probably be a deal breaker.