So a friend of mine (30f- C) is going through a divorce and has told me that she is sad; even though she doesn’t show it out in public and constantly has a warm smile on her face. Then there is another guy (28m- A) that has his own issues and has been divorced before but is currently married. He believes his wife is cheating on him though. I know he would not be a good partner for C even though he is a friend of mine.
We are all at a live in style academy and met about 100 days ago, C didn’t get the divorce paperwork till 2 weeks ago. Last night our class decided to go drinking and celebrate. These two started talking and drinking a lot. I saw A slap C’s butt and they continued flirting. A buddy and I were getting between them to prevent them from kissing or doing something since both were drunk and it would be frowned upon in the academy.
Later on we got back to the dorms and they were trying to kiss again so my buddy and I kept them separated. The next day when C and I went on a run, she said how she was super drunk last night and that isn’t normal for her to be that drunk. She even said “I was so drunk I was trying to kissing A”.
Since then they’ve been texting each other nonstop and are glued to each other during class. I want to tell her my opinion but not ruin the friendship with C or A. It’s one thing to stop them when they’re drunk, another when they’re sober. I feel it’s a little of camp goggles for A and the divorce for C but what do I know? I also don’t want to say much because I’m only 21 and have limited relationship experience
Some side facts that may help is:
we never knew each other until the start of the academy. C and myself met first and we bonded close and have been there supporting each other mentally and physically in the gym or runs since day 1.
A usually get plastered every time he goes out drinking.
I do have feelings for C, figuring out if it’s like a platonic love that I care for her or if it’s something more.
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You have feelings for C, so let her know and see where things lead. A has no room to get mad, because he’s the one who’s married while you and C have the freedom to explore your options. If A feels like his wife is cheating, that’s no excuse to go and do it himself, he should just be a man and leave the marriage.
In regards to your update, if you make decisions like this based on gossip and not fact well then you didn’t like her much in the first place.
This all ends in the 2 getting together the guy cheating staying married getting her pregnant.
Then dumping her when she wants him to leave his wife.
Really ooeole make the worst choices and after trying to help 3 friends in toxic relationships this women has learned they always make the wrong choice cause of feelings...
Sorry she will get hurt by this and you have to let her!
It’s to a point where it’s not even the fact I have feeling for her or know their relationship wouldn’t work out, but more so the idea of her career being messed up if it happens
Won't matter to her she just wants wlthe guy on front of her!
These things usually mess up her career but help his in the end.
By being honest and telling other person that you'd rather just be friends.