Questions: Relationships

Alex and lover Kelly move in together. Both have graveyard schedules & smoke. Kelly usually finishes smoking faster & goes inside first. Kelly also uses a small metal black footstool outside.

Alex can't see it in the dark & bangs their leg hard walking back inside. Small cut, big bruise! Alex moves it out of the walkway. Alex doesn't blame Kelly for the accident and admits to not looking before walking; but since Kelly insists on keeping patio light off, asks Kelly to move it out of the way when not in use. Kelly says ok but be more careful.

This happens 3 more times over the next few days. Each time ending in Alex moving it aside & a gentle reminder for Kelly to please move it before coming inside. Alex comments on the worsening pain as time goes on & is limping some now. Kelly shows minimal concern or help. The 3rd time, Alex is very frustrated and confronts Kelly more harshly. Kelly agrees to put more thought into remembering but Alex should really learn to walk around the area to avoid another accident.

Two weeks Kelly just hasn't used the stool so it couldn't be accidentally left out again. Alex's leg has swollen & bruised up alarmingly bad. A quarter sized blood clot is ballooned out of Alex's calf, requiring blood thinners.

One night the couple is outside together again and Kelly uses the stool. Just like before its left out & Alex kicks it falling inside with intense pain crying out for Kelly's soothing. Kelly asserts "if you can't learn to look where you're going then I guess I'll just have to throw it away". Alex says its unfair to force guilt like that. "Either my fault you have to trash your footrest or its my fault i got hurt again when I'm the only one moving it aside and you keep moving it back and forgetting". Alex suggests finding a way so the stool more visible like glowing tape or using the patio light. Kelly refuses, rules it trash, & both stay upset the rest of the day...

Who is right?