Would you want to be someone’s’ first girlfriend/boyfriend if they are older than 25?

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If she/he is more than 25 years old.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

So what is an official “girlfriend”. I personally lost my V card at 16 to my HS girlfriend who I only dated for 6 weeks. Though out my 20s I did date a lot and had many flings. But I never had something official enough were i met their family. It wasn’t until the ripe old age of 32 I dated girl for where this actually happened.

Does that mean I didn’t want a steady girlfriend in my late teens and 20s? Of course not I actually dreamed of that. Really wanted. Bad.

But every girl I really liked and thought I could date long term ended up treating me like complete friendzone shit back then (I was a “nice” guy). So I became increasingly more guarded prior when it came to investing my time, heart, money into someone who might exploit it. I also got fed up with chivalry reaping zero benefits so i went straight for flings and hook ups. Not that was noble approach but it was better than being raked over the coals for being too nice.

So at 32 did i straight out tell my then girlfriend I never had a true long term relationship? No of course not. She never asked about my past either. But she really liked me and vice versa. That information would of only screw things up. She could of self sabotaged herself by not giving me a chance.

Fromdusktilldawn · Accepted Answer

Yea why not. I am 26 and also never had a girlfriend

Jennyjenjen_420 · Accepted Answer

Sorry but no, they would lack in the emotional maturity part. It’s hard enough to find a guy (sorry guys) who is emotional mature as it is. It takes heartbreak (sometimes more than one) to realize mistakes and shortcomings one may be doing in the relationship that failed and by realizing those mistakes and emotionally maturing can help create a strong foundation for a future relationship. For instance, it took me getting heartbroken twice to find my worth and to learn to love myself before I could give love to others. Someone who has never been in relationships much less in love then they’d lack in learning those things. You cannot love another without loving yourself first. You just can’t. You’ll fall into the hole of depression and no one wants to be in love with a depressed person right? Even if you think you can heal them, it’ll take themselves to heal themselves, not others but knowing that someone out there loves them does help though. Everyone deserves a whole partner, not a half there partner. So, emotional maturity is a great foundation for a healthy relationship. This is just my own opinion. ❤️

Sorrento-Sun · Accepted Answer

Yes of course. It wouldn't bother me in the slightest that he'd never had a girlfriend

It would be a turn off and red flag if he'd been in and out of many relationships, but not if he'd never had a girlfriend

Apple1996 · Answer

Nah that's too old to have never had any dating experience. Don't think I'd have the patience to deal with someone like that.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

I'm 67 years old. That would be plenty weird, don't you think?

Pinay_ako · Answer

🤔 what’s wrong with that?

Smoke-n-Growls · Answer

No.

I've dated a guy in his 30s for whom I was his first girlfriend.

His lack of dating experience was just the tip of the iceberg. He had no idea how to be a grown adult. He couldn't get through a work day without playing his gatcha games or porn (to the point he nearly got fired), he couldn't clean his place, he had zero life experience, and he had so little lived experience he was more like a child than a man.

I've been through quite a bit of life and, personally, I'm not looking to explain life again to another sheltered cishet boy.

For me, it's about having stuff in common and living lives we can be happy sharing together. I can't imagine getting that dating someone who's never dated before.

Xoxocutekitty · Answer

Probably no. Unless you are particularly religious, conservative (arranged marriage/date to marry only), or asexual, I would find it strange that within the first 7-9 years of dating eligibility (starting at 16 or 18 until 25), they had not considered or attempted having one committed relationship.

The intention to make someone your girlfriend or boyfriend I think speaks to ones baseline responsibility to communicate, respect, adore, and commit to a person, even if like 99% of relationships, they do end. All relationships end, except the one that doesn't, but they can still have the good faith that it could go the distance, starting with the silly girlfriend/boyfriend lingo and the stipulations that come with using such lingo (dates, meeting your friends, sharing hobbies, meeting parents )

CubsterShura · Answer

I wouldn't mind if he isn't salty about the fact that I've had boyfriends before. People can have their own reasons to not date especially in my culture where we have a very strict society and youngsters are encouraged to focus on studying, I can see that realistically some people would not get the opportunity to date until their mid 20's.

HippieVeganJewslim · Answer

Why the heck not? Chances are, it ain’t their fault not to have any relationships. I myself find it hard to get a girlfriend, let alone boyfriend or non-binary partner. However, I ain’t too weird that would make it bad. I want to marry Noura, and I think She never had a boy/girlfriend; She’s a Syrian refugee in Jordan. Put yourself in her/his shoes: would it feel sad not to have a relationship for the rest of her/his life? If She got a decent personality and fears one and only one almighty god, that’s all right with me.

ZackBan · Answer

Depending on how you define girlfriend/boyfriend one could argue that I myself am turning 25 and have never been in a real committed classical relationship. So yeah I have no problem being someone's first as she would be mine as well in a way. (Although I have had casual relationships and medium term things before)

Rose_84 · Answer

Yes but only if they willingly rejected fake people and were patient to wait for the right person for 25 years.

I won't be their first girlfriend just because they had NO other options in the past.

I need to see that they had many options but they had self control and didn't opened up easily, that's a turn on.

Sarahr123 · Answer

Duh that’s what I would die for. I don’t want a boy who’s been with anyone and everyone. I would love it and feel honoured that he waited 25-30 years and felt that I was special enough to be the first one he allowed into his life. Maybe he had more important things to focus on than chasing skirt and being with just anyone.

wheresmrcunnunglis · Answer

Unbeknowstingly, I wouldn't mind but if they told me. I would probably back out due to the realization that Im not perfect by a long shot and would constantly feel like I have to give them the "perfect first-time relationship" experience which would ultimately end the relationship. ugh.

Avicenna · Answer

Well, I would want to know why she had never had a boyfriend, especially if she is closer to my age. The answer to that would probably determine whether I'd date her. I'd be concerned that she has no idea how a relationship works or isn't used to compromise, sharing or other aspects of a relationship.

Sixgunsound · Answer

I’d be interested in knowing the story. If she was an aggressive fire spitting career type who didn’t need no man until she realizes she is about to hit the wall then probably not. That didn’t appeal to me in my 20’s and doesn’t appeal to me in my 30’s either.

FunkyMonkee · Answer

Sure! I'd love to try a virgin! Why does everyone think being a virgin is some kind of disgrace? EVERYONE had to start SOMEWHERE! If NO ONE ELSE likes virgin girls or if you don't want to be one, anymore, come on over, I'll be happy to take care of that for you! Just call me, "Cherry Destroyer"!

Anonymous · Answer

I personally wouldn’t feel comfortable with it. I know what I can bring into the table but it also comes with a lot of baggage (from my childhood trauma) and I prefer to open up to a guy with more “experience” in dealing with baggages. I wouldn’t want to potentially ruin someone’s first experience in love just bc of the baggage that I carry 😔

msc545 · Answer

Yes. Why should this matter at all? There are so many more things to worry about besides the person's age when they first had a boyfriend or girlfriend, whether or not the person is a virgin, the person's body count, and a million other bullshit things that people come up with on this site. Try worrying about their personality and their honesty instead.

Rania05 · Answer

Yes, I would be a bit flattered to. Plus men with no girlfriend at that age are more appreciative of them.

melanieeeB · Answer

No I wouldn't, I don't wanna deal with showing them firsts and explaining how relationships work, catering their insecurities or whatever might come with that

ethanallen · Answer

Never. Anyone who cannot form a relationship before the age of 25 has serious problems. I don't want that person's problems inside my wire.

magiusX26 · Answer

i'ld rather not be anyone's first boyfriend period. assuming i was still willing to date/have a relationship/bump uglies i would preffer them to have sone sort of previous experience as some form of comparision.

uwotm8e · Answer

I would personally want to know why. I wouldn't directly ask, but rather observe. Knowing how people being single forever is rising, I would understand perfectly well the struggles she has gone through (or at least can try to)

ohsheeT · Answer

Yes of course for me age doesn't really matter if you're a beautiful on the inside that's all that matters to me

Drumlin2001 · Answer

I'm not sure. As someone who didn't have a relationship till 35 I'd be able to empathise a lot, but with two kids I don't have a lot of free time so not sure I'd have the patience

JamesDiaz11 · Answer

I'd like to be a girls first boyfriend. I don't care how old they are (as long as they're over 18, and under 30).

FilmGuy93 · Answer

I would prefer not to be, but I realize how screwed up relationships are right now. People simply aren't doing much dating or hooking up these days because they are scared of getting hurt.

RoulOB · Answer

I never had experiences, so I would definitely prefer someone who didn't had. Even if it's quiet difficult

all_hayl · Answer

Depends on various factors, but in general, who cares if they haven’t had one.

exitseven · Answer

It would make no difference to me. I would treat her with respect and gentleness.

petitedollbabee · Answer

I prefer someone with relationship experience. A first relationship comes with a lot of problems.

menina · Answer

I see no problem with that. Besides, if I ever have a boyfriend I'll be older than 25.

Berethor · Answer

Yes unless it because she was having casual sex, I am not into hos.

DannyUk2017 · Answer

Yes, but if I HAVE MORE EXPERIENCE than them, don't want them to FREAK OUT!

Light909090 · Answer

I prefer To be by myself for the remainder of my life.

HighValue · Answer

Sure, why not. It would be better than being the 20 + person she was with.

ArtemisSilver · Answer

I think I would, it's just as fun as dating anyone who's experiencing things for the first time, but with some added maturity in the mix.

Anonymous · Answer

Realistically, there are no really attractive women who would never have had a boyfriend before 25 unless they have some MAJOR hangups or issues. So no, probably not.

Intothevoid666 · Answer

I’d rather than be their second but I’m not seriously dating a woman who is 25 either way so.

CrazeXD · Answer

I don't think not having experience matters, everyone starts somewhere maybe they were more focused on academics or hadn't met the right person yet. Personally, if they had been in an out of relationships that would be a much bigger red flag.

Anonymous · Answer

Not a chance. At that age they should have had at least one or two heartbreaks already if there isn't something that people found as a red flag.

U4ea0 · Answer

I wouldn't care if she has never even been on a date.

JustADudePlayinADude · Answer

I care more about emotional maturity and financial security than petty shit like that.

Anonymous · Answer

I would not start dating a 25 year old... I would probably still be with her if we started dating before she turned 25, but I prefer 18-19 olds.

tiajoka · Answer

I would prefer it tbh. I've enough baggage for the both of us lol

Po1989 · Answer

Yes I would have no problem with that at all. As long as I was interested in her otherwise why not?

Anonymous · Answer

I'm 18, and the only reason I wouldn't date them is because they're 25 or older. Nothing wrong with never having dated by that point, but the prospect of dating someone that much older upsets me for some reason.

Valso · Answer

If they're not mentally disabled (a. k. a religious), probably "yes".

TroyDT · Answer

Never had a boyfriend, as a committed relationship? Yes. Never dated anyone? Probably not.

MountAverage · Answer

Yeah that's fine, as long as she has enough dating and sex experience.

Kingofkings1992 · Answer

That wouldn’t bother me one bit. If I genuinely like her and care about her, how many prior relationships she’s had doesn’t matter.

Headstrongcrazylover · Answer

Yes, I would be glad to meet such person. I would also make sure that she will be the happiest person when I come into her life.

Twalli · Answer

It wouldn't bother me. Thankfully it didn't bother my girlfriend.

Djaay · Answer

For a person of responsibility and morals , along with good values.., why not?

Aerissa_Jade · Answer

Wouldn't be a problem for me.

Missgingles · Answer

Yes that would be really sweet:)

Lionman95 · Answer

Yes I would be open to that nevertheless.

Dinklex3 · Answer

Doesn't matter to me.

MTC29 · Answer

Yes, I would.

Jemini_Crocket · Answer

I would like that tbh

AssholeNumberOne · Answer

If that's close to my age, sure

Reaper1985 · Answer

would consider it if we got along well.

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