Questions: Relationships

My boyfriend of 3 years got upset because of something I said. He proceeded to call me a fat “c”, fat b$&ch, stupid b$&ch… among other things.

We were having a discussion about electric cars and gas prices. I said that we need to rely less on petroleum and I thought the government should increase the tax credit so that electric cars would be more affordable for the regular person.

He said why should I have yo pay for someone else yo have an electric car?

I responded “My taxes go towards a lot of wars that I don’t support so I think this should be considered the same. There are many things that I pay for that I don’t support. The good this will create outweighs the people who don’t want clean cars.”

He served our country as a Marine and he proceeded to tell me that I was an ungrateful “C” and all the other insults. I listened quietly during his rant. He kept hanging up on me and then calling me back to insult me some more. I was very calm and I remember only saying “tell me more of how you feel about me.” I didn’t insult him back because honestly I don’t insult people I love, it’s not my personality. Then on his last call I was silent and when he was done he said “Do you have something you want to say to me” or “what do you have to say” something like that I was really upset but I didn’t react at all. My voice was steady and the only thing I said was - this is it for us. Then he started yelling again and insulting me some more.

Wondering what everyone thinks about this. Was this my fault? Was his reaction warranted? I honestly don’t think I could ever “be” with him after he called me a fat “C”, and honestly I’m more offended he kept calling me fat than the C word, but I keep thinking who would say these things to a person they love? I wouldn’t.