Polls: Relationships

1. Words of affirmation
People with words of affirmation as a love language value verbal acknowledgments of affection, including frequent "I love you's," compliments, words of appreciation, verbal encouragement, and often frequent digital communication like texting and social media engagement.

2. Quality time
People whose love language is quality time feel the most adored when their partner actively wants to spend time with them and is always down to hang out. They particularly love when active listening, eye contact, and full presence are prioritized hallmarks in the relationship.

3. Acts of services
If your love language is acts of service, you value when your partner goes out of their way to make your life easier. It's things like bringing you soup when you're sick, making your coffee for you in the morning, or picking up your dry cleaning for you when you've had a busy day at work.

4. Gifts
Gifts is a pretty straightforward love language: You feel loved when people give you "visual symbols of love," as Chapman calls it. It's not about the monetary value but the symbolic thought behind the item. People with this style recognize and value the gift-giving process: the careful reflection, the deliberate choosing of the object to represent the relationship, and the emotional benefits from receiving the present.

5. Physical touch
People with physical touch as their love language feel loved when they receive physical signs of affection, including kissing, holding hands, cuddling on the couch, and sex. Physical intimacy and touch can be incredibly affirming and serve as a powerful emotional connector for people with this love language. The roots go back to our childhood, Motamedi notes, some people only felt deep affection and love by their parents when they were held, kissed, or touched.

For instance, and this is just me... I can start getting into a very deep mental or verbal conversation with myself, ask the questions, answer the questions... from my point of view and a third perspective. (Espesically if I smoke weed)

As crazy as it sounds, these are some very useful conversations to have... With yourself!!

They bring clarity, perspective, judgment, and doubt.. forcing you to make rational decisions. Ones that you may have not thought of, or chosen before. Growing, as a person.

I could have done a whole My Take on this subject, to be honest... But I'm not high enough, and in too much pain (maybe I will/should?)

Anyway, let me know what you think... I think this subject is not only fascinating but has so many layers!!

Much love

If you look at the number of single people with pet cats or dogs, or the number of single woman who choose to adopt or use fertility treatments, or the number of men who own pet cobras or do volunteer work, I believe the ability to love somebody else is just as important as the desire to be loved by somebody else. I know if I did not have people to love during the pandemic, I would not have been as motivated as I was to build my career and there is a chance I may not have built a career at all. Maybe I would have relied entirely on my parents for future income through what they leave me in the will, or what my millionaire cousins give me, but my obsession with being able to have my own family drove me to build my own career.

I think everyone is a little bit "broken" in some way or another, and definitely some more than others.
I think in my own experience I've not only seemed to attract broken men into my life, but it almost seems like I sought them out, on an unconscious level.. Like I want to try and "fix" them, or like I can help them, whilst they supposedly help me?

But this isn't always the case, this can be a recipe for disaster.. 💯
You can help one another along, thinking because you're both hurting or that you're in similar, yet different predicaments that you're able to sympathise and hold each other close.. but if you're not healing yourself, or have gotten enough support for your own issues first.. Then how are you meant to support someone else to the best of your ability? 🤔

Like wise, when it comes to healthy relationships, does this mean that you are able to rely on this person when something DOES eventually go wrong, not knowing what to expect because you were in a good head space to begin with? 🤔